If you are looking for a book along the lines of ”S&M 101″ or a technique book, this book is not for you. However, if you are new to S&M or are an experienced player that is looking to reach out and stroke someone in the greater community, then this is book is a must read and definitely something to add to your Yule list!
The authors, Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams, both of whom have recently wrapped up a book tour to promote this book, are well-respected in the BDSM community and have 30 years combined experience as players, purveyors, and educators. To find out more about Lee and Mollena, check out their profiles: http://www.playingwellwithothers.org/mo/ www.playingwellwithothers.org/lee/
Playing Well With Others, is available both electronically and in work book format. The book is written in a very approachable style that is easy to read either cover to cover or one section at a time as the mood strikes you. The prose is broken up with cute side bars featuring cartoon Lees and Mollenas that often given personal anecdotes about the topic at hand. The topics in the book range from how to act and find your first munch all the way through the many permeations of BDSM society that end at the big, bad expensive convention. In fact, cons are covered quite a bit in this book, and it’s obvious that the authors enjoy and attend conventions often. Some of the information in the book is repeated in several different spots, presumably because the authors think that it’s important and a point you need to commit to memory.
In addition to all the wonderful information contained within the main part of the book itself, Playing Well With Others also contains several appendices at the end that folks new to the scene will find extremely helpful.
The overall themes of the book–remembering your manners, taking time to learn new etiquette, and learning when it’s appropriate to ask questions (which is something you’re strongly encouraged to do)–are applicable not only to folks who are looking to start playing in the BDSM community, but also to people looking to join the Pagan or Heathen communities after being solitary practitioners or to anyone who is going to be joining a new community soon. And if you’re going to have to attend a convention in the near future, whether it’s for fun or for business, the sections on conventions are extremely helpful.
For more information on the book or to purchase the book, click here (Do it! You know you want to!): http://www.playingwellwithothers.org/
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