Aphrodite is a heavy-handed MILF!

This was posted on Facebook by Church Militant.  I liked it because it’s true.  I’ve seen a lot of bitching this year on Facebook by Pagans bemoaning all the commercialism attached to Valentine’s Day and the fact that they feel left out because they did not properly budget for this year.  Those aren’t really their words, but that’s the basic gist.  What they said was “Whine, whine, whine, bitch, bitch, bitch, moan, moan, moan.”  If you’re a Pagan, you really shouldn’t care about celebrating Valentine’s Day.  Instead, you should be focused on celebrating Lupercalia!  All you need to do on Lupercalia is fuck and fuck and fuck some more!  If you’re really going to be fun, get out your play toys and beat some fertility into each other.  Which brings us to the lovely Aphrodite, one of the patronesses here at the Barbed Pentacle.

Evidently, Cupid is a very bad boy and Aphrodite is a heavy-handed MILF, at least according to classical art.

This picture is like a reverse pinata–blindfold the kid and beat him with a stick.

The greeting card companies never market cards with Cupid on it that say, “Pray that Cupid isn’t mischievous this year and sets you up with a psychopath” because that’s one of the fucked up things that Cupid likes to do for fun.

Often Ares or Mars, Aphrodite’s long-time lover, gets in on the action.

Sometimes, though, Aphrodite and Cupid gang-up on Ares.

It’s like if Rapunzel were in to flagellation! Ares looks like he’s smiling.

However, the MILF always gets what she deserves in the end.

The ways of exploring the relationship between Aphrodite, Cupid, and Ares are endless. If you want to go the S&M route, roses are a good choice to use as an implement, as are arrows.  Field arrows aren’t very expensive and offer lots of options.   The shaft can be used like a rod or cane on a willing sacrifice, the fletching is nice for tickling, and the point, well, it has all kinds of possibilities.  If Love hasn’t been kind to you, you can always beat it.  The ancients were fond of creating sculptures and such to represent deities and ideas.  If the harvest was poor or some sort of natural disaster occurred, the sculptural representative received the physical brunt of the supplicants’ displeasure.  There’s no reason not to continue this tradition.  At the very least, it’ll be fun and make you feel better.

What will I be doing for Lupercalia?  I’m going to wear red and let the Big Bad Wolf eat me up!

My theory is that the story of “Little Red Riding Hood” is a vague carry over from ancient Lupercalian celebrations.  I haven’t done any research toward substantiating my theory yet, but maybe one day.

Looking for something to read on Lupercalia?  Try Tonia Brown’s Devouring Milo.  I’ll admit, I haven’t gotten very far in the book yet because I’ve been thankfully too busy blessedly spreading my fingers as a sexy word whore, but what I read was fantastically gory.

http://www.amazon.com/Devouring-Milo-Tonia-Brown-ebook/dp/B00DWZYWKO

These folks know how to suck your titties:

Mystic Artisanshttps://www.facebook.com/mysticartisans

Passion And Soulhttp://passionandsoul.com/

Help with the project: http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/more-shibari-you-can-use

Tonia Brown:  www.thebackseatwriter.com

https://www.facebook.com/events/442022209256634/

Quadrivium Supplies:  http://www.quadrivium-supplies.com/  

Hyperdreams Interactive Storieshttp://www.hyperdreams.com/

 

 

Samhain Invitation Tea: Feed Your Head, Part 4

My first experience with hallucinogens (besides the lovely trips I’d take as a little kid huffing nitrous oxide at the dentist’s office) was with eating nutmeg before bed to induce vivid dreams.  I had come across some reference to sailors getting trippy on nutmeg, and I decided that it would be fun to experiment with the spice.  Once you get past the initial nausea, it’s not too bad.

Nutmeg fruits want to be sexually alluring, but they just don’t quite pull it off.

 

This tea is good to serve at Samhain because it helps to open you up to the different possibilities of the thinning of the veil.  If you’re doing divination, it will help with that.  If you’re doing ancestor work, it will help with that.  If you’re looking for spirits, it will help with that.  If you’re just drinking away the night, add booze to the tea–preferable tequila or absinthe.

The recipe:  Serves 4 to 6 people or one really adventurous person with a strong stomach.

2 liters boiling water (or a kettle full), 1 cup honey, 3 grated nutmegs, 3 cinnamon sticks, 2 teaspoons dried yarrow, 1/4 cup rosehips (fresh or dried), 2 tablespoons dried mugwort (or wormwood), and 2 tablespoons dried hops

Steep concoction for 10 minutes and strain.  Serve chilled 10 minutes before ritual.

I’ve always been a little creeped out by how half a nutmeg looks. The little dark lines look like chicken veins or something. Of course, I suppose, you could divine things from the veins.

Do not use this tea if you are pregnant, breast-feeding, or trying to conceive.  Some of the herbs can cause pre-menstrual bleeding.  So keep a panty liner handy a day or two after ritual.

 

These folks are nutmeg eaters:

The Geeky Kink Event http://thegeekykinkevent.com/

Tonia Brown www.thebackseatwriter.com

Erotic Sensations http://eroticsensations.us/

Passion And Soul: http://passionandsoul.com/

 

If you only buy one book this year…buy this one!, Feed Your Head, Part 3

If your interest has been ignited by this series and you’re looking for a good resource to add to your library, let me suggest The Magical and Ritual Use of Herbs by Richard Alan Miller. http://richardalanmiller.com/http://www.amazon.com/The-Magical-Ritual-Use-Herbs/dp/0892814012

Richard Alan Miller is an old hippie who was smart enough to go to college and become a physicist, a bio-chemist, and an herbalist before he fried his brain (unlike other old hippies that I know).  He is also a Pagan who feels that it’s ridiculous for the American government to allow Native Americans the legal use of peyote in religious ritual but not Wiccans and other “legal” nature based religions.  This is a stance that I strongly agree with.  While there’s not an unbroken lineage between the Earth-based religions of today and the religions of history, our modern Pagan paths are based on the practices of the ancients, and they used drugs as part of their religious ceremonies.  If I want to have a good time I’ll get drunk or stoned, not spend an hour or more preparing peyote and then spending several more hours trying to force myself not to vomit as I hallucinate and commune with the Lord and Lady, wondering if the ants I feel on my skin are real or fake.  Despite the ants and the nausea, the other experiences that I get from taking a substance like peyote are meaningful to me and my religious path and should be legal for anyone who wants to experience it.

Miller also views these plants and substances used in ritual as “sacraments,” which is similar to the way that many Central and South American native groups view them.  These groups often view the plant’s spirit as a deity that you are taking into your body and asking to become one with you.  It’s a whole other form of aspecting.  Miller is also cool because he is very prompt about returning emailed questions from readers about dosage and recipe substitution.  He replied to me within 24 hours with out having ever met me.  He’s that dedicated.

The book is very easy to use.  If you don’t want to read the whole work, you don’t have to.  The book starts off with an intro into ritual and magic for new Pagans or non-Pagans who are reading the book (I have a feeling that a lot of anthropology classes probably assign this book as a companion reference to Castaneda’s questionable Don Juan series (beware of brujas, sparkling crows, and dogs that want to piss on you)).

The book is then divided into sections: stimulants, depressants, narcotics, and hallucinogens.  There is also a quick reference chart at the end of the book which is really handy because we all know that Pagans are too lazy now to actually learn and memorize stuff (or as my partner claims “too busy”).  Each plant entry contains an excellent line drawing of the plant that is good enough to identify a majority of the entries from nature, sacrament type, Latin and common names for the plant, the location where the plant grows wild, the habitat where you can find the plant, a botanical description, the history of use, the chemical make-up with diagrams, the primary effects, how to prepare the sacrament, ideas for ritual use, and any precautions that the user should keep in mind.  Miller’s prose is not boring or overly scholarly.

Most of the plants that Miller covers in his book are legal (more or less) in most states in the US.  Some of the plants do fall into gray areas, so do your homework.  ”I didn’t know” never seems to work as a legal defense.  Some of the plants are exotics that can easily be ordered online or found in local herb and health food stores, but many of them can be found for free in wild places or cultivated.  Passion Flowers, lobelia, scullcap, Mormon Tea, valerian, wild lettuce, wormwood, calamus, morning glories, psilocyben, and datura (thorn apple or jimson weed) are all often found in gardens, pastures, and roadsides.  Check out from the library a field guide for wild plants in your area and have fun harvesting.

I use my copy of The Magical and Ritual Use of Herbs all the time.  If you’re willing to shell out $15 for some book from Llewellyn, then you should definitely spring for this book.  If you’re too poor or cheap to buy it, well there’s always Tortuga.

These folks enjoy ingesting plant deities from time to time:

The Geeky Kink Event http://thegeekykinkevent.com/

Tonia Brown www.thebackseatwriter.com

Chris Eagle Music http://chriseaglemusic.weebly.com/

Erotic Sensations http://eroticsensations.us/

Passion And Soul: http://passionandsoul.com/

 

 

Feed Your Head, part 1: Gift of the Magi

Mind-altering drugs. When I hear that phrase, I immediately think of the 1960′s, as do many other people in America. However, the use of mind-altering drugs can be traced much farther back, as I’m sure you learned from the above documentary. They were originally used by ancient man in religious ceremonies. Although mind-altering drugs are a lot of fun to take recreationally, the main focus of this new series will be to explore easily gotten, relatively legal, substances that can be used in group or solitary ritual. Most of the substances that will be discussed can best be described as good old-fashioned gateway drugs. Most of them won’t leave you so inebriated that you can’t drive home from ritual, but they’ll work well enough to remove the inhibitions that may be keeping you from directly interacting with your deities in a ritual. That, in nutshell, is the whole reason why people started taking mind-altering substances.

“And when they were come into the house, they saw the young child with Mary his mother, and fell down, and worshipped him and when they had opened their treasures, they presented unto him gifts; gold, and frankincense and myrrh.”  Matthew 2:11

Frankincense is a tree resin from the genus Boswellia.

When sold in its resin from (often called “tears”), it’s a white to yellow color.

It’s also sold as a powder, oil, and in incense sticks and cones. It’s an ancient substance of Middle Eastern origin. It has been used for healing and embalming. It’s what often fills the censers at a Catholic church service.

Magically, frankincense is used for protection, cleansing, meditation, and purification.  Evidently, the boswellia trees are in some trouble.  So, buy your frankincense while you can!  http://econews.com.au/news-to-sustain-our-world/wise-men-warn-frankincense-trees-in-decline/

I had never really considered using frankincense as a mind altering substance until I was up very late one night chugging spiked coffee working on some Pagan project. I had the History Channel or its sister station (I don’t really remember) on as back ground noise. I really wasn’t paying attention to the noise until a cool show came on about how the Ancients used different chemicals in ritual and every day life. Unfortunately, it’s not the show at the beginning of the entry. Dr. Weil is not anywhere near as dynamic a host as this show’s host had been. If I find a link to the correct show, I’ll post it. Anyway, besides the normal stuff about magic mushrooms, tobacco, and different cousins of peyote, the show discussed how supposedly the Ancient Greeks would hotbox frankincense before making important political decisions.

At first, I laughed out loud about this. It sounded like something the really lame kids did in Middle School because they didn’t have any High School connections. When my partner came into the room to ask if I was planning on coming to bed sometime in the next couple of days, I shared the frankincense information. Instead of laughing with me, he thought it made perfect sense. “That’s probably why everyone claimed to have such deep religious experiences at the ritual I conducted last year. The only incense I used was frankincense, and I used a lot of it.” It was true.

The ritual was conducted outside, but my partner used a huge cauldron full of hot charcoal and frankincense as a censer. After thinking about it for a while, I realized that the people who reported, in some cases life-altering, religious experiences were the ones who got blasted for several minutes by the frankincense smoke when the wind shifted in their direction. As it turned out, the Greeks were on to something.

Hotboxing frankincense is a very easy way to start exploring the use of mind altering substances in ritual. Chances are that you already have frankincense in your magical supplies. The term “hotboxing” (for those that don’t know) refers to smoking a substance in an enclosed area, like a car or bathroom.  Hotboxing shouldn’t be done by people with allergies, asthma, or other breathing, lung, or respiratory/sinus ailments. For using frankincense in this manner in ritual, you need a space where the ventilation can be adjusted. The ancient Greeks used a closet, but I wouldn’t suggest that. I would suggest a small room with a window or a fan.

Before ritual, light a large amount of frankincense (I prefer the resin on charcoal) in a fire safe container (which is what your censer should be). Leave it burning in the closed area for a few minutes while you finish other preparations in a different room. When you enter, the room should be smokey. Close the door and inhale. After three minutes, open a window a small amount or turn a fan on low. This is so that the smoke still stays in the room, but fresh air is introduced or at least the air remaining in the room is circulated. If you don’t introduce some fresh air or air circulation, asphyxiation will occur, which will lead to a close encounter with your deities of a different kind. Now conduct ritual as you normally would. After your ritual is over, open the window wide or turn the fan on high to clear the room of smoke. FYI, beware of smoke detectors and carbon monoxide detectors when using frankincense in this manner.

Hotboxing frankincense is a very gentle and relatively safe way to start exploring legal, mind altering substances. It’s not going to make you high or cause hallucinations, but your brain will react to the frankincense. Just be aware, and reflect on the ritual later to see what how this ritual differed from well ventilated rituals.

Hotbox these folks:

Erotic Sensations http://eroticsensations.us/

Quadrivium Supplies  http://www.quadrivium-supplies.com

Tonia Brown www.thebackseatwriter.com

Chris Eagle Music http://chriseaglemusic.weebly.com/

The Geeky Kink Event http://thegeekykinkevent.com/
Passion And Soul: http://passionandsoul.com/

 

Corn Hole!? Happy Lammas!

Happy Lammas!  In my Wiccan tradition, today is the day that we celebrate the Celtic god Lugh, the first harvest–grains, and the abundance of life.

(Just looking at the wheat makes me all hot and bothered!)

Lugh is the god of skills and athletic feats. I think it’s neat that the summer Olympics are going on right now since festivals that showed off feats of skill were a traditional way to honor Lugh.  Lugh is also the god of light and commonly referred to as “Long Arm”.  Hmmmm, bet he was good at reach arounds!

In honor of Lugh and Lammas, many Wiccans bake bread and make corn dollies to represent the “corn” harvest.  While some folks make corn dollies to look like actual dolls, corn dollies were traditionally made in a phallic shape from the last wheat sheaf harvested which was thought to hold the spirit of the harvest.

Lots of possibilities, huh? You can use them to tickle and to fuck!  For really easy directions on making your corn dollie, go to: http://traditions-uk.freeservers.com/crafts.html.

Once you’ve made your corn dollie, have a ritual to honor Lugh and the harvest.  This ritual can be with just you or with a partner or group.  First invoke Lugh, the god of light and grain and strength.  Invite him to come to you (or come into you, if you feel comfortable with that).  Now, run your corn  dollie’s fringes up and down your body, feeling the tickles and scratches.  When you’re ready, and you’ll know, lubricate the corn dollie well, choose an orifice, and have fun.  Some caution should be taken.  Use lots of lubrication since the wheat can be a little rough.  Also, don’t get so lost in the moment that you break your corn dollie inside of you or that you injure yourself with it.  It’s not Pyrex.  You have now made love to the year’s harvest, and that wonderful energy will ensure a good harvest for next year.  For more Lammas ideas, check out the “Threshing the Corn Mother” ritual in the “BDSM rituals” page: http://barbedpentacle.com/?page_id=228.

I want to send out a big special thank you to Dr. Weird and Butternut for all the help they have given me and the Barbed Pentacle over the last several weeks.  Without their support, we would not have such a nice looking new home!  I’d also like to thank my special partner for arranging things for the new home.  Thanks baby!

These folks are making corn dollies:

Quadrivium Supplies  http://www.quadrivium-supplies.com

Erotic Sensations http://eroticsensations.us/

May you never thirst, part 3: You’re a grape because you’re full of whine!

What do fancy dinners, Wiccan rituals, Ernest Hemingway, and my favorite punch all have in common? Wine! Pagans and yuppies in particular seem to be fond of wine. For some reason, and I suspect that it goes back to mistaken thoughts about ancients and carry overs from Christian communion, many Pagans feel that they can only use wine for cakes and ale. This of course is ridiculous, but wine is still the most popular beverage in circle. Wine is incredibly easy to make, which probably explains why most of the world’s cultures have some version of it. Kordwainer, who has been Wiccan for 20 years, makes wine at home.

Several years ago he was looking for a new project to take on. ” A friend of mine suggested that I look into wine making. It was good timing too, because there were a couple of learning opportunities right around the bend. I ended up attending a workshop by the agricultural extension service and enrolling in a short class at a local farm just a month or so later. ” Since learning about wine making, Kordwainer has made several batches of wine, from both kits (like making a cake from cake mix) and crushed fruit (like making a cake from scratch), some of which have been used in rituals for cakes and ale and libation.

Wine holds a sacred spot in Kordwainer’s religious beliefs. “I am, in particular, a devotee of Dionysos, God of wine (among other things). He is the Divine aspect that resonates most deeply with me and I see His story played out in the actual wine making process itself,” explains Kordwainer. “In a body of Myth associated with Orphic cults, we are taught that humanity was originally made partly of the remains of the infant Dionysos and partly of the Titans who kidnapped and dismembered Him. When Zeus discovered that the Titans had killed the child and were preparing to make a meal of him, He showered the entire scene with His lightning, destroying both the attackers and the victim. Hermes swooped in and carried away Dionysos’s still beating heart, from which He was later reborn. The soot and ash that was left over served as the raw material from which Zeus formed mankind. The material was a mix of the remains of the baby and His murderers, therefore each of us has something of the God in us as well as more base and wicked impulses.

“Dionysos’s bodily destruction at the hands of the Titans is mirrored in the crushing of the grape, and the gradual separation of the new wine from the must and lees reflects His role in elevating our own spirits, drawing out more of our Divine nature and leaving behind our titanic influences.

“What I’ve enjoyed more than anything else has been muscadine wine. I love the flavor, and the grapes themselves have an untamed quality that I admire. I think of them as embodying more of the wild Dionysian spirit.”

As I stated above, wine is really easy to make. It is also completely legal to make at home, as long as you don’t sell your wine or make more than around 100 gallons. Of course, like anything, there’s always somebody willing to sell their sqeezings regardless of the law.Kordwainer said that his initial investment was about $200, which included yeast and fruit for his first batch and a bundled kit from a wine shop. The typical kit includes a primary fermenter, two secondary fermenters, a hydrometer (a tool that measures sugar/alcohol levels), and some tubing for racking. With this set up, you’re ready to start making your first batch.


According to Kordwainer, “You basically start with some sweet liquid, like fruit juice, and place it in a controlled environment where you can manage things like temperature and exposure to oxygen. Fruit pulp or whole crushed fruit is often left in the juice to help provide aroma and color. This juice/fruit combo is called “must”. Into your must, you introduce some yeast and give it time to convert the sugar into alcohol, making sure to keep an eye on the process. 


 ”At some point you’ll have to separate the wine from the sediment (called the “lees”) or the wine will take on some unpleasant flavors or odors. The separation is accomplished by draining the wine into a new container, leaving the lees behind (this is called “racking”). You’ll probably have to rack a batch of wine at least twice before you get an acceptable level of clarity. 


“When the wine is clear, and the fermentation process is complete, you’ll hopefully have a very dry wine. Any sweetness left at this point means that the fermentation process was halted before the yeast could eat all the sugar, and that can be a bad sign. Most winemakers will sweeten their wine at least a little after the fermentation process is done and before final bottling, but for fans of dry wines, it’s not strictly necessary. It is important to stabilize the wine (kill any remaining yeast) before bottling, though. If fermentation restarts after the wine is bottled, it can have explosive results (literally). 


“You have to make sure the sugar level in your juice is high enough to get the potency you want in your wine, and you have to be careful about what strains of yeast you use and make sure that the risk of contamination from other bacteria is minimized. My best tip is Sanitation is king. Keep everything sanitized; even the slightest contamination can ruin a batch of wine. Next, I’d advise you to do your homework. Read some books, take a class or attend a workshop if you’re able to. Try to at least partially understand what you’re trying to accomplish on a chemical level. I’m no chemist, but the little bit I learned has really help immeasurably. Finally, I’d say to be prepared to exercise some patience. Wine takes a long time to mature. You’re looking at 3 or 4 months at least before a batch is drinkable, and letting it mature longer after bottling greatly improves its quality.” 


Just as wine and ritual seem to be a natural pairing, food and wine seem to be quite natural as well. While many wine aficionados spend endless hours biting their nails over pairing just the right wine with their food, Kordwainer says that it’s not a big deal. “It’s a bit like magick, actually. In a way, wine/food pairing follows the law of attraction. Like calls to like. Red meats go with red wines; and white meats like poultry or fish go with white wines. Rich foods pair nicely with more robust wines, and milder food match with lighter wines. Of course, the most important rule is to drink wine you enjoy with food you enjoy, preferably in enjoyable company. “ 




Just as pairing the right wine to the right cuisine is important, pouring wine properly is also important. “There are differing opinions about that. There are a LOT of variables, honestly: the exact temperature at which to serve the wine, the shape of the glass, how long to let it breathe before pouring, whether or not to use a decanter, etc. Pouring a glass of wine can be an art, or even a science. To add to the confusion, it can all change for different varieties of wine. You pour a still wine into the center of the glass, but you pour a sparkling wine against the edge to keep it bubbly. White wines are more commonly served chilled than reds, although sweeter red wines sometimes break this rule.


 ”My own favorite serving method is highly unorthodox, but it does have some historical justification. The Greeks, in accordance with the edicts of Dionysos, always mixed their wine with water. To them, the drinking of unmixed wine was a sign of barbarism. I prefer to mix my wine with club soda and serve it over ice. I also favor sweet, full bodied wines which work out well with this method. I know that there are some cultured wine buffs who would have my head, but I pour it to drink and enjoy, and I think that’s the real secret to the perfect glass of wine.” 


With that said, imbibe some wine and try not to act like a maenad (at least not too much!).



Intercourse in Ritual

“There is something so amazing about a sexual climax, where you are so engulfed by the sensations, that I think you actually transcend your own self and ego … and all that you identify with at that point, and [you] achieve a new level or consciousness that is totally pure.” –Martina

There’s tons of books and websites and workshops out there about sex magic and tantric sex.  That’s not what this entry is about.

Intercourse in ritual is a natural extension of Hieros Gamos, the sacred marriage and union of the God and Goddess.  There are many different ways that sex can be used in ritual to enhance the ritual and magic.  And sex, as it’s being used here, means with two or more people or solitary.  Masturbation works just as well as partnered sex.  Here’s a short, short run down of some different ideas to get you into the Beltane spirit.

Sex to call the quarters
Consider using different positions, toys, or acts to call in the elements and quarters.

Sex to Invoke the Lord and Lady
Consider using different positions or toys to invoke the God and Goddess.  If you’re having sex with a partner of the opposite sex/gender affiliation, when invoking the Goddess, the girl can be on top.  When invoking the God, guy on top.



Sex to raise energy
In many different sex magic traditions, sex is used to generate the energy behind the magic, with the spell being completed upon climax.

Literal Hieros Gamos
Instead of an athame and chalice, use your body as it was meant to be used!

Libation
If your tradition calls for libations to be poured during ritual, sexual fluids are a wonderful libation liquid and are much more meaningful than cheap wine.

Sex to ground
While sex can be used to raise energy, sex can also be used to dissipate energy.  As you climax, feel all that extra energy from ritual seep into the ground and leave your body.

Sex as the whole ritual
For those with stamina and creativity, sex can be the whole ritual act.  Foreplay can be used to call in the elements and invoke the Lord and Lady, food can be added in for cakes and ale, and climax after climax can be added in for magical acts, libations, and grounding.

Remember:
Let my worship be within the heart that rejoices, for behold, all acts of love and pleasure are my rituals.


With the Lady’s words in mind, outdoor sex should be done on private property, no underage participants should be present at rituals that involve sex or sexual acts, and all sexual acts should be consensual.

These folks have sex in ritual:
Erotic Sensations:  http://eroticsensations.us/
Tonia Brown: www.thebackseatwriter.com

Blessed Be Thy Feet, Part 5: Salvation for Your Sole– Ceromancy, Falaqa, and Bastinado

He, sir, that must marry this woman. Therefore, you 
    clown, abandon,–which is in the vulgar leave,–the 
    society,–which in the boorish is company,–of this 
    female,–which in the common is woman; which 
    together is, abandon the society of this female, or, 
    clown, thou perishest; or, to thy better 
    understanding, diest; or, to wit I kill thee, make 
    thee away, translate thy life into death, thy 
    liberty into bondage: I will deal in poison with 
    thee, or in bastinado, or in steel; I will bandy 
    with thee in faction; I will o’errun thee with 
    policy; I will kill thee a hundred and fifty ways: 
    therefore tremble and depart.  (As You Like It (1599); Act V, Scene 1, 45-56)



From Merriam Webster’s online dictionary:
1bas·ti·na·do

a blow with a stick or cudgel; a beating especially with a stick; a punishment consisting of beating the soles of the feet with a stick; stick, cudgel
According to the entry, the word is Spanish, but originally from Latin, and it was first used in 1572.  I suspect, however, that the date may not be entirely correct.  The custom of punishing the soles of a person’s feet has been around far longer than that, especially in the Middle East.  If bastinado was not in Spain before the Moorish Invasion, it definitely was after 711 AD.  The practice is also know as falanga and falaqa (the Persian word for it).  Falaqa refers to the board, which looks like an English foot stock, that is often used to immobilize a person’s feet for whipping.

 Bastinado is a delicate subject, not only because it’s administered on a part of the body that is both tough and delicate at the same time, but because most instances of bastinado aren’t for “love and pleasure”.  It often falls into the dark side of the light and dark dichotomy.  Historically and in modern times, it was used in religious schools as punishment, by the military as an interrogation and torture method, by governments as a sentence, and in seraglios as a way to keep order. 
Bahá’u'lláh of the Baha’i’ faith under went Falaqa in Iran.
Political dissidents and religious minorities are often the ones to suffer bastinado.  The insidious thing about bastinado is that it’s a lot like being beaten by a phone book: it can inflict ungodly pain and physical damage but it doesn’t usually leave marks.  People tend to fold quicker under bastinado than they do with other types of torture.
So, if there is so much pain and horrid misery associated with bastinado, why am I covering it?  For one thing, a reader requested that I cover it.  I try to be a pleaser, when I can.  For another thing, it’s a perfectly valid thing to discuss within the context of this blog.  Lots and lots of people have a bastinado fetish: giving, receiving, and watching.  More than you might think.  Type anything in this blog into You Tube and your mouth will drop and your eyes will bulge.  
It has been awhile since I’ve been around any bastinado, and even then, it wasn’t something I was around very much.  In doing research for this blog, I came across a series of videos by Barefootcecilia on Youtube, which gave me a lot of ideas.  However, just now when I went to link her channel to this blog, I received: “This account has been terminated due to repeated or severe violations of our Community Guidelines and/or claims of copyright infringement.”  Sorry, darling.  Guess you were just too hot for You Tube (and she was hot!)


 Before I go further, the standard warning statement should be made: All things should be safe, sane, and consensual.  As with any sort of S&M and/ or sex ritual, be responsible.  Use safe words and condoms and respect boundaries.  No under aged participants or spectators.  Outdoor sex should be on private property.  Bondage should allow for blood flow.  If you break skin, use first aid to treat it and clean your equipment properly.  And with foot whipping, don’t over do it.  The object is to lightly stimulate nerves, not break bones (and break bones you can very easily).



There are several options for integrating bastinado into Pagan worship. Some ideas have been mentioned in the The Many Textures of Deity section and in the Cut Me a Switch, Bitch section that is under BDSM Rituals. Another idea is to have one person offer their feet up as a ritual object.  In this case, the person’s feet would be used for several different things.  Their feet could be used as a drum, an incense holder for stick incense, a candle holder for small tapers, and if they’re talented, a flat surface to hold a chalice or a bowl of water.  If the person is really good at being still and completely zoning out, their whole body could be used as an altar.
Feet as a drum:  Since most people don’t regularly undergo bastinado, I would advise only using your hands, like with bongos.  If you’d like to use drumsticks but want to play it safe, super thin plastic rulers are good implements for bastinado.  They have a loud “slap” but a fleeting sharp sting that won’t do any damage.
Feet as an incense holder:  Unless the person has extremely calloused feet (which I’m not covering here), only use stick incense tucked in between the toes.  For added sound effects that will make the “incense burner” squirm, you can periodically wet the foot down.  As the ash drops, it will sizzle.
Feet as a candle holder: You can implement this idea in much the same way you would do with the incense, even down to the water.  However, everybody involved should be aware that candle wax will get on the person’s soles and aloe should be available for possible burns.  After all the wax has dripped, ceromancy can be practiced on the images left on the person’s sole.  Ceromancy is traditionally the practice of divining meanings from the images of wax dripped into water, it can easily be applied to flesh as  well.  As with other types of divination that deal with formed images (like tea leaf reading), different shapes mean different things.   After becoming familiar with the with the meaning of the shapes, use your own intuition to divine what they really mean to your situation or that of your sub’s.  This is a well honored method of divination among those of the kinkier sort.  According to Jesterbear.com, the Italian courtesan Veronica Franco faced the Inquisition on charges related to ceromancy.  I wonder if she underwent bastinado as part of the inquest?


As a nice way to wind down after circle, don’t forget to tickle your “altar’s” feet.  According to Mistress Marmot, who started out as a sub, “When I was a sub, my Doms would tickle my feet, except I wasn’t ticklish there.  Instead, it would make me want to scratch my feet.  It would bother me.”  So, tickling might not be the pleasure you intended! 






Candlemas: Light my ass up baby and eat whipped cream from my pussy!

Happy Imbolc!


In some traditions, this is the fire festival that celebrates the goddess Brigid, the lambing season, milk, light, the first stirrings of Spring’s return, and the Ascent of the Goddess.  
“I fell you like a child…..”

Brigid is a fire, hearth, and forge goddess from Ireland.  She is also in charge of a variety of other things, from agriculture to crafts and songs/poetry.  She inspires people to be creative.  Imbolc is the perfect time to integrate fire play and dairy into your spiritual and sexual practice.

A very simple way to do this is to integrate wax play into your practice. When the Catholics Christianized Imbolc, they named it Candlemas.  All the candles in a person’s home would be taken to church to be blessed for the year.  Before dripping wax onto your partner, bless and consecrate it with some oil or salt water.


 The type of candle used for wax play is important.  Most people use white paraffin candles because they have a lower melting point.  Colored paraffin candles can be used, but they feel hotter and can occasionally burn. The same is true for scented candles.  While they are nice to smell and use in spells, the oils that make them scented can burn when dripped upon skin.  Never use beeswax or tallow candles.  They burn, burn, burn, and not in a good way!  The heat of the wax can be controlled by the height in which it’s dropped.  The higher up the candle is from flesh, the longer the wax has to cool on the way down.  The closer the wax is to the skin, the less time it has to cool down. 


Candle magic can be incorporated into wax play.  Spells, prayers, and Imbolc wishes can be inscribed onto the candle with the magic being released as the candle burns.  The same things can also be inscribed in the wax that has been dripped onto your partner.  Be very careful that you don’t end up inscribing your partner’s flesh.  I would use a tooth pick instead of a metal stylus.  If you decide to brave colored candles, color magic can also be added to the magical mix. However, white candles can be made to represent any other color, so if in doubt, just stick to white. The more elements used in a spell, the stronger your magic will be.  Repetition of intent is the key to strong spells.

Candle hats, also called St. Lucia wreaths, are a traditional symbol of Bridget’s relation to the rising sun.  Wearing one takes not only faith and courage, but also balance. Candle hats can be easily made from Styrofoam, like an Advent wreath, or it can be made from other materials.  The small candles used for menorahs typically work best.  Large tapers tend to tip over and land in the wearer’s hair.  If the bearer of the wreath is worried about getting wax in their hair, have them wear a shower cap.  As with the wax play, prayers, spells, and wishes can be inscribed on the candles.  The traditional color for the candles is white.
  The wearer can simply stand during the ritual, meditate or pray while wearing it, dance, or for something more elaborate, they can undergo small ordeals, like tickling, figging, clamps, ice, or light spanking.  A Brigid’s Cross would be an excellent object to use for tickling.
Fire play, which is where isopropyl alcohol is swiped onto a person and lit on fire for a short period of time, is another excellent way to celebrate Imbolc, but unlike the previous suggestions, fire play should not be done by inexperienced folks.  It’s dangerous and requires a little bit of training.  That being said, the times that I’ve engaged in fire play, I found it extremely stimulating and fun.  The adrenaline rush will leave you very dreamy. 
Here is a short run down of fire play basics by Iain Turner.  The printable version can be found here. 
“Fire Play basic notes – LDG Fetish Fair – ©Iain Turner 2004-2008spotter. The spotter(s) must be trained and prepared to go towards any problem and fix it, rather than run. I offer a formal class for spotters.Clothes. If you’re in or near a fire scene, don’t wear fuel. All common artificial fibers are fuel – they’re made of petroleum products. They’ll easily ignite or melt into the skin. Do not wear anything with nylon, poly-anything, rubber, latex, PVC, elastic, rayon, etc. Also no fur, feathers, frayed material. Better choices: bare skin, leather, all-cotton, linen, flannel, wool, silk, kevlar, duvetyne.Hair. Hair burns easily. If it gets near fire, it will be gone. Light arm or back hair just burns off. Thicker hair, as at head, beard or crotch, can provide enough fuel to scar the skin. So shave it or cover it. An all-cotton towel or leather hood are good. Hair products are highly flammable; remember Michael Jackson. Likewise, avoid nail polish. No dangling clothes or jewelry. Caution near piercings.Environment
Tips for
● Avoid a gasp that would inhale fire, fuel, smoke, or fire extinguisher products.
● It’s normal to be scared of fire. It’s OK to safeword. It’s important to tell the top if an area has gotten overworked or burned.
● “When your tits are on fire, don’t look down.” If your head is above the flames, look up, not down.
● Don’t run or shake, which add oxygen. If you’re on fire, don’t run from the spotter or top.
● Apply aloe vera for a few days afterwards, even if not burned. This should start during aftercare.
● Your skin is sensitized. Avoid backpacks and harnesses for a day or two, to avoid raising blisters.
● Stay well hydrated (drink water) before and for a few days after the scene.
. Look around for all fuels and damageable items – curtains, carpets, ceiling, cats. Make sure there won’t be people or critters moving who might upset candles or fuel. Fairly dim lighting allows you to see more flame locations. Too dark adds risks, like knocking over fuel or flame. Keep excess fuel at a depot well away from the scene.Bottoms:Spotter’s Job:● You’re covering the top’s back, so the top can focus on the scene. Watch all flame. Watch all fuel, especially any the top’s not watching. Watch the environment, perimeter, and all safety issues.
● Understand the top’s equipment, fuels, locations, and plan before play starts. Know the bottom’s limits. Check how to use extinguisher. There’s no time for questions or doubt during an emergency.
● Keep yourself fuel-free. Have fire suppression tools in your hands, not just nearby. Don’t get distracted; this is a crucial, full-time job.
“When in doubt, put it out.” You can always relight the fire. The difference between a great scene and a bad burn can be one second of excess flame.Spotter tools. My favorite is a very damp (not dripping) all-cotton towel, folded in half or quarters. It smothers a large area of flame quickly, and it cools. Always use both hands. I also have fire extinguishers right by me, if the fire spreads. I also have a water spray/mister.Safety words
spotter is entering the scene now. So “orange leg incoming” tells the top to stop instantly as a spotter comes in to put out the fire (probably on the top’s leg). Play may resume if everything is put in order.
. Spotters or others yell “Orange” to indicate unintended fire. “Incoming” means a Accidents
● Fuel is hard on the eyes/cornea. If it splashes in the eye, hold the eye open and irrigate with saline/water for 15 minutes. See the MSDS. Get immediate medical attention.
. ● If you think there may be skin damage, stop the scene. Apply cold (ice) immediately, for 5+ minutes; residual heat can continue to cook deeper. If you’re considering getting professional attention, don’t add any “burn treatment” goop to the wound, the nurse will just have to dig it out. Fuel: The basic fuel is 70% isopropyl. Other fuels add new issues: 90% isopropyl, ethanol, alcohol gels (Purell), lamp oil, jet fuel, flash cotton, flammable metals, etc. Fuels are poisonous inside the body. Most can explode if vapors accumulate. Fuels can damage clothing, toys and furniture. Fuel Management: A key to safety is controlling all the fuels. Unintended fuels – furniture, dogs, paper, leaves, must be excluded from the area. Intended fuels must be in known places, controlled quantities, and contained. Designate separate areas for fueling, play, extinguishing, and depot. Fuel build up: It’s too easy to accumulate fuel during a scene, on the bottom, top, or furniture. E.g. you apply fuel, burn most of it off, but some remains. After a while, the extra fuel is a big hazard. Sometimes you can see, feel, or smell the fuel. I wipe the area with my hand, then smell the hand. Fuel drip
Different individuals, and different parts of the body have different
: Liquid fuels run, and always to places you don’t want to burn. Especially, don’t let fuel get under the bottom. Use small quantities to avoid drips and runs. tolerances for fire and heat. Genitals
My personal favorites are techniques where I, as top, have the fire on me a lot. This helps me gage the heat, and share the fun. I almost always put out the flames with my bare hand.
Typical burn times are 1 – 3 seconds, but vary greatly by fuel, body part, individual, and technique. Longer burns are possible if the flame moves around the body, never staying on one part.

 

Basic fire play kit

Here are some fire-related
● Torch: A wand/torch/baton with fueled wick is passed around the body, perhaps rubbed or bounced.
● Hand torch: The same, with top’s hand serving as the torch.
● Wipe and light: Apply a streak of fuel, then light it. Put it out (hand or flogger) as it goes.
● Binaca blast / “flame thrower”: Ignite a brief aerosol blast of fuel.
● Flash cotton. Ignited on/above skin. Tricky and dangerous.
● Exotic metals. Add color and sparkle to the flame. Tricky and dangerous.
● Fire mitt. Lighting a kevlar glove on the top’s hand.
● Fire pin. Branding with a red hot needle piercing. Usually intended to be temporary.
● Fire cupping: Igniting fuel inside a cup, quickly applied to skin. Cooling produces suction.
● Candles: Candle flame is too hot for skin. Dripping warm wax is part of Wax Play.
● Fire spinning: Juggling or spinning fire poi near the bottom.
● Fire flogging: Using a lit kevlar flogger on skin. Very problematic.
● Fire breathing: Using the top’s mouth as a flame thrower. Very problematic.
I teach beginning and advanced hands-on fire, and a spotter training class, including handing lots of live fire, and drills for noticing and putting out bad fire.
: Shorten burn times on thinner, or more sensitive skin, especially pink bits. Folded skin can accumulate fuel (bad). Tight spaces can concentrate heat. Don’t burn up your favorite toys. techniques you may see or learn. Each has special issues not covered here. The first four are most common. Most scenes use only 1-3 of these. edukink @ yahoo.com “There are old pilots, and there are bold pilots, but there are no old, bold pilots.” Successful fire players behave cautiously at all times. More at http://EduKink.org/articles/Fire_Play May your Imbolc be warm and creamy!

Cupping Aftermath

Fire play can be used in spells by drawing sigils or words onto your partner with the alcohol.  As the fuel burns the sigil, which could be for banishing, attracting, or any manner of things, will work it’s magic.  Sigils for self-transformation work particularly well with this, since the sigil’s energy is burned into you–like a brand without the scar. onto your partner with the alcohol.  As the fuel burns the sigil, which could be for banishing, attracting, or any manner of things, will work it’s magic.  Sigils for self-transformation work particularly well with this, since the sigil’s energy is burned into you–like a brand without the scar. Cupping can be used on some of the chakras and is good to use in banishing spells.  The technique has been used for thousands of years as a way of drawing impurities out of the body.

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Another aspect of Imbolc is milk and lactation. Oimelc, another name for the holiday, means “ewe’s milk”.  Any sort of dairy beverage or dish is appropriate for Imbolc as is beer (Brigid controls brewing).  A magical milk bath or milk enema would be a good way to start off your Imbolc practices.  For both of these practices, focus on spiritual nourishment, since that is what milk is typically associated with.

Whipped cream is another fun Imbolc dairy food.  I think the picture is pretty self explanatory.  Use your imagination and enjoy cakes and ale!

May your Imbolc be warm and creamy!

Blessed Be Thy Feet, Part 3, Section B: Wash My Tired Feet!

As was stated in the last blog, Christians are not the only ones who wash their feet in a ritual setting.  Muslims do it as well, but for a very different reason.  Instead of the foot washing being an act of submission, it’s an act of hygiene and literal and symbolic cleansing.  It is also performed on one’s self instead of by one person to another.

Real sexy, huh?

The act of washing the feet and other body parts is called “Wudu” and is done in preparation for salat, which are prayers.  According to the Islamic Center of Charlotte’s website, “Prayer for a Muslim involves uniting mind, soul, and body in worship……In the ritual prayers each individual Muslim is in direct contact with Allah. There is no need of a priest as an intermediary.”  Sounds kind of Pagan. 

“For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean.” (Al-Baqarah, 2:222) is the verse from the Quran that is commonly used to support wudu.  There are many rules surrounding what kind of water can be used for ablutions, but the most important rule is that the water must be clean and pure.  The more natural the source the better.  While performing wudu, the participant should not only think about how the water is getting them literally clean but also on how the water is symbolically cleansing them as well.  It sounds like sympathetic magic at its best.  
As Pagans, we can incorporate the practice of wudu as a shorten form of a ritual bath.  Magical and medicinal herbs that promote cleansing and purity could be added to the water for a bath tea or oils could be substituted.  Herbs and oils that promote deity consciousness would be another good choice.  Gem stones could also be added to make gem elixirs
Wikipedia has a lot of what I assume is good information on wudu, but I called the Islamic Center of Charlotte to double check some facts.  Instead of answering my questions via the phone, the gentleman that I spoke with invited me to Friday prayers where I’ll be able to participate in wudu with the ladies.  When I get that all arranged, I’ll post a supplemental section detailing my experiences.