Handfasting. Everybody wants to get handfasted, but few people seem to take it seriously. While some folks go the extra distance to find some one who is legally ordained, most Pagans jump the gun on jumping the broom and decide to get handfasted “well because we love each other!!!”. Then, when the relationship breaks up, they seem to forget all about the very religiously binding vows that they made before the Lord and Lady. Seldom is there ever a handparting to tidy things up.
I could give you a history of handfasting, about how it use to mean one thing but then the Pagans made it mean something else. That would be very boring. Go look it up for yourself!
Despite the vast array of cool cords on the market and all the wonderful things that can be done with those cords, most clergy (Pagan and non-Pagan) just tie boring old (and very often sloppy) Granny knots–if they tie any knot at all. I’m really appalled by this! A couple is tying the knot and making sacred vows! The least that an officiant could do is up the anty on the cord magic and tie a meaningful and beautiful knot!
According to Nikki Nefarious, who is a world renowned Sharbari artist and ordained minister who performs handfastings through her service The Ties That Bind, “Traditional hand fastings have no real knots though, the whole thing is meant to come off before or just after the ceremony ends. Actually, I do mine after the ring exchange; it’s a series of wraps that goes with the vows/speech I say, then they stand there entwined and say their vows, at that point the ribbon/cloth/rope comes off and they kiss and the ceremony is over. If there were knots to untie it would awkward-up the whole process.” Well, we wouldn’t want to untie the knots anyway and lose the magic that we’ve tied up!
With a little planning and forethought, a really meaningful and awesome knot can be tied for the couple. Two Knotty Boys (http://www.knottyboys.com/), Ms. Nefarious’ colleagues in the knot business, have some great ideas.
Both of these can be tied during the ritual and then wrapped around the couple’s hands and tied so the cord can be slipped off before the ceremony.
If you are looking for a handfasting book that has a wide variety of different types of handfasting ceremonies and lots of charts and ideas, get this book. It even has an example of the elusive handparting ceremony.
These folks are looking forward to the honeymoon:
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