What the word “network” really means, mother fuckers!

It’s that time again!  It’s June, which means that it’s time for the Pagan Values Blogject!  This year I’ll be posting two posts that both deal with interacting with people other than yourself.  To see other PVB posts from me and other people for 2015 and previous years, check out: https://paganvalues.wordpress.com/

Very few people these days, Pagans and non-Pagans, seem to understand what a social network really is.  It is not a place to post all kinds of crap about yourself and then expect no one to see it and share,  nor is it a place to post all kinds of stuff about yourself and then to become depressed because nobody comments on your post.  A social network is a place where you are suppose to connect with people in a social manner, for whatever purpose that may be: personal, business, or religious.  That means that you need to use some common sense, good manners, and put your best fucking face on.  That means that you should expect to get friend invites from people you don’t know who think you might be neat to get to know based solely on the tiny bit about yourself that you’ve put in your profile.  Don’t be a dick about it.  If you don’t want to friend the person, just hit decline.  Don’t send them rude messages demanding to know why you sent them a friend request.  And the sites that make you message a person before you send them a friend request (um, like Fet Life) are ludicrous.  It’s a social network site.  You’re there to make friends with people you don’t know.  By sending a friend request you are asking that person to be your friend.  It’s tedious and redundant to have to send a message and then send a request.

People judge you on your posts.  If you rant all the time, you’re going to appear to never be happy.  If you talk shit all the time, people are going to think you’re never happy.  Social media sites are not suppose to be used as group therapy.  That’s why you go to the health department and get hooked up with a group that meets once a week in a church basement or community center.  If you use social media sites as group therapy, you come off as crazy.  If you find that you’ve used social media in any of the ways mentioned above in this paragraph, then you need a blog.

Apate, Greek Goddess of Deceit

Pagans, if you join groups on social media sites that cater to Pagans, people will know you’re Pagan.  If you post Pagan things on your social media accounts, people who you may not want to know that you’re Pagan will soon find out that you’re Pagan.  Therefore, don’t whine and complain when you’re suddenly kicked out of the broom closet.  You are the one who put that information on the Internet for everyone to see, despite what you think you’re privacy settings are set to.  Everybody, especially the government, can find it all out because you put it on social networking sites.

If somebody does something with your information that you don’t like, don’t confront that person in public, especially at first.  Use some common sense and manners and private message the person.  Calling somebody out in public is only going to make the situation worse.  You may think you’re a badass, but chances are the person you just called out is a bigger badass.  And if they’re Pagan, they may work more in the gray areas of magic than you do.  Be nice and private message.  The reality of the situation is that for the most part, you rarely really know the people that you’re connected to on a social network site, but I would bet good money that it’s very easy to track down your physical location from your social network account.  Don’t piss people off needlessly.  It could backfire in ways you’ve never imagined.  Also, don’t be stupid enough to make threats online.  I see people getting mad over stupid things and doing this all the time.  If you make a threat online, then it’s a public threat which can be used against you in a court of law.

And finally, don’t be offended when people share things from your social networking account without asking.  If you don’t want it shared, don’t fucking post it.

Most of what I’ve said here is common sense, but nobody, especially the average Pagan, seems to have any common sense or manners anymore.

I guess they were too busy meditating when their parents and teachers tried to teach them how to be polite to other people.

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Beware of the Jezebel Spirit! A Pagan Service Announcement

I don’t often repost blogs from other people, but I came across this tonight when I was taking a break from other projects and doing some research for upcoming “Barbed Pentacle” posts, and I have to say that I laughed so hard that I thought I was going to have to be cut out of my corset.  I laughed and laughed and laughed.  And I may have passed out a little.  But when I came to, it occurred to me that it’s stupid shit like this that gets good people killed.  It’s a little long, but it’s worth the read.  My favorite quote is “Whoredom spirits can even make the homely look sexually attractive.”  If that is true, then I’m spreading my legs wide!



These folks are spreading their legs for Jezebel and her whoredom spirits:

Mystic Artisanshttps://www.facebook.com/mysticartisans

Passion And Soulhttp://passionandsoul.com/

Help with the project: http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/more-shibari-you-can-use

Tonia Brown:  www.thebackseatwriter.com

Quadrivium Supplies:  http://www.quadrivium-supplies.com/  

Hyperdreams Interactive Storieshttp://www.hyperdreams.com/

Christian food is nourishing too!: A Pagan Service Announcement

Right now, there are many people in America who are struggling to make ends meet and feed their families.  Some of these people are Pagans, Heathens, and other non-Christians.  Often times, people decide that they do need assistance from agencies other than those run by the state and federal governments.  In many areas, these agencies are run by Christians.  Some non-Christians take offense to this and act in foolish and pig-headed ways.  If you and your family are starving and freezing, you are stupid not to take whatever help is offered–even if you have to smile and listen to someone tell you about the joys of Jesus.

What you find at a Pagan food bank.

Despite what you may have heard or what you may believe, Christian food is just as nourishing to you as it is to a Christian.  You will not burst into flames if you eat it.  Likewise, Christian emergency fund money will pay your electric bill just as efficiently as anybody else’s legal tender.  Also, despite what you may have heard or what you want to believe, many Christian run food banks don’t care what your religious beliefs are, nor will they refuse to help you if you are not a Christian.  Some places will indeed ask if you have taken Jesus as your Savior, but often times answering “no” will not mean you won’t get food.  Usually people are denied food at these places because when asked about their beliefs they become belligerent, defensive dumbasses that care more about proclaiming their Pagan beliefs than feeding their children.

If you are questioned about your religious beliefs at a Christian food bank, there are many ways to politely respond to their questions without being a hungry asshole.  If someone asks you if you know Jesus or if you have taken Jesus as your Savior, you can say, “No, but I’m open to hearing a little more about him,” or you can say “I feel that I’m just not ready to take that step yet.”  Both of these responses are truthful to your beliefs and they are respectful to the Christians.  You may get preached at a little or get handed a tract, but isn’t that just a small price to pay for not having to buy groceries with money you don’t really have?  If you get asked if you have been Saved, just reply with an honest “No” and let it go (unless you come from a Presbyterian background, then you can honestly answer that you’re predestined).  If you are asked if you believe in a Heaven or Hell, don’t launch into a diatribe about how you don’t believe in Hell or how wonderful the Summerland is going to be.  Just simply respond, “I’m not sure, but I would love to hear about your belief in Heaven and Hell.”  There’s no harm done in listening, and before you know it, you’ll have your groceries in the car and your emergency fund money in the electric company’s bank account!

If you have noticed, you’ve not once had to say that you’re Pagan (or other non-Christian religious adherent).  If you’re smart and sensitive to your surroundings, you will not wear obvious Pagan jewelry or t-shirts at the Christian food bank, and you’ll have enough sense to cover up any Pagan tattoos.  What should you do if a Christian says,  “It doesn’t sound like you’re a Christian, what religion are you?”  As with all the previous answers, the perfect answer is simple and leaves room for the Christian to proselyte if he/she wishes too.  Try answering in this manner: “I follow a Nature-based belief system that has great respect for all the religions and believes that many paths are valid, including Christianity.”  Or, you can give the simplest answer of all: “I’m non-denominational.”

How can you find food banks in your area?  The easiest way is to call your local Health Department, Agricultural Extension Office, or Department of Social Services.  Just tell them that it’s been a hard month and you need some temporary assistance with food.  If you don’t feel comfortable with this, lie and say you’re calling on behalf of a friend.

Usually you are denied food because with the bad economy nobody is donating food.

In a related bit of advice:  If you receive any sort of state or federal assistance, whether it’s Medicaid, SNAP, or Pell Grants, don’t be a dumbass and complain in public (like on social networking sites) about how much you hate certain local industries just because they irritate you, i.e. the Christmas tree industry or tourism.  The tax money from these industries helps to pay the public assistance that you’re receiving, and nobody feels like their tax money should go to you when all you do is appear to be an ungrateful brat who needs his or her ass beat!

These folks know all the right responses!

Passion And Soul: http://passionandsoul.com/

Knotjokin Rope Floggers: http://www.knotjokin.etsy.com

Tonia Brown www.thebackseatwriter.com

Just Smack Me!: http://barbedpentacle.com/just-smack-me-a-wooden-spoon-decorating-contest/