Straight Laced and Well Embraced

Happy Ostara!

Psst, come here and give me a hug.  Can you feel what’s hugging me as you hug me?  If you don’t know what that is, then your ignorance about foundation garments is appalling. Some days are corset days, some days are bra days, and some days are dirty hippie days when I wear nothing at all.

I like corsets.  I don’t wear them tight enough to permanently change my shape.  I wear them just tight enough that they’re not slipping around and being uncomfortable.  I can do anything in a corset: fuck, toss cabers, cook, drive, run, kneel and suck, ride carousels– anything I want to do.  I like corsets because it feels like someone is always hugging me, like a lover wrapping his or her arms around me as they look over my shoulder.

There are tons of different styles of corsets, ranging from from ancient to modern.  I prefer a corset that’s more in a modest Victorian style–one that covers my tits (because why should you have to wear a bra with a corset?  That’s stupid!) and comes down far enough on my hips that when I kneel or bend over it doesn’t slip up over the waist band of my jeans.

While corsets may seem expensive and time consuming, they’re really not.

In the long run, corsets work out to be cheaper than bras, especially if you shop around and take good care of your garments.  You only need one corset (although more is always fun).  You don’t wash it more than once a year (if that).  You hang it over a hanger in the closet to air, if you want you can put fabric refresher on it, and the only other expense is buying camisoles to go under the corset.  Cotton camis are much cheaper than bras and much easier to wash.  Once you practice a time or two, putting on your corset is a cinch because you shouldn’t unlace it after every wearing.  You only need to loosen the laces before storage.

 

Ideally, corsets should be just tight enough not to slide around, like someone giving you a nice hug.  There is the practice of corset training, which is a form of body modification.  During the Victorian Era, it was the norm to purposely and permanently change a woman’s shape by using corset training. 

Corset piercing is another popular form of body modification.

Magically, corsets are like egg shells–protective and decorative.  They can be used for magical and psychic protection since they cover your heart, solar plexus, and sacral chakras.

Your corset, when used magically, is an extension of your psychic walls of protection.  You can use color magic to boost this principle, applique on stones, or embroider or paint runes and sigils on your corset.

Since corsets shouldn’t be washed, Florida water, of Hoodoo and Zora Neale Hurston fame, can be dabbed on the inside seams that cover the boning to cleanse your corset psychically and to give it a nice scent.  Why those particular areas?  When applied to the inside seams that cover the boning, the Florida water won’t seep through to the front of the corset and potentially stain the material. (Thanks Ms. Finch!)

Corsets can also be used for self-bondage.  A wonderful self bondage/suspension substitution is to lace yourself into a corset (and for this you may lace a little tighter than for normal wear) and go swing on a high “big kid” swing at the park. You know, the ones that get really high into the air.

Just enjoy the moment.  Use it as a meditation or a private, sexual moment (or both).  Once you get high enough, lean back and just let your body fly through the air–only pumping enough to maintain your height.  When you’re done, you can use the gradually slowing motion to bring yourself back down to reality.

These folks hope that you all have a very fun Ostara and fuck like bunnies:

Mystic Artisanshttps://www.facebook.com/mysticartisans

Passion And Soulhttp://passionandsoul.com/

Help with the project: http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/more-shibari-you-can-use

Tonia Brown:  www.thebackseatwriter.com

Quadrivium Supplies:  http://www.quadrivium-supplies.com/  

Hyperdreams Interactive Storieshttp://www.hyperdreams.com/

 

 

All Tied Up, Part 3: Tie me up, Mr. Buckland!

Most of you reading this post have probably seen this picture in Raymond Buckland’s “Big Blue Book” (not the book’s real title).  This picture is why the book cannot be placed in prison libraries for Wiccan prisoners.  In case you’re seeing this picture out of context, it is showing how to tie an initiate during initiations.

Knots have a long, but sometimes neglected, history in magic.  Good can be tied to you or less than good can be bound up.  Numerology can come into play with the number of loops and twists in a magic knot, as well as color magic for the cord being used.  If the knot magic is being used in bondage, consider corresponding some scents to your intentions.  Simply anoint your rope with a few drops of essential oil(s).  Knot magic is very easy.  As you tie the knot, visualize what ever you want tied to you or what you want bound up and tied up away.  You can also say a power word, charm, or chant as you tie the knots.

Not Your Granny’s Knots

Two Knotty Boys (also known as Dan and JD) have some of the best and easy to follow tutorial videos on the Internet for tying knots (http://www.knottyboys.com). The videos discussed in this post can be found for free download at http://www.knottyboys.com/code/downloads.php. The first two videos that I recommend that you check out is the video on how to make your own rope and the video on how to dye your rope.  While it’s not necessary for you to make your own rope, your magic will have more power behind it if you twist your intent into your rope and then tie it in as well.  Likewise, colored rope is readily available for purchase, but your spell will have more power if you are able to meditate while you dye your rope and charge it with your intent.

The next video that you should look at is the rope web video.  The rope web has many magical possibilities.  It can be used most obviously in weaving and spider magic.  It could also be erected in a bedroom as a dream catcher.  The creation of the web could be used as a meditative exercise.  I’m excited to create some spider rituals using this web.  You could be the spider lying in wait or the helpless fly bound up in a rope corselet harness.

The double coin knot can be used in a magic spell using a green rope.  The knot work and remaining rope can be turned into a witch’s ladder or money amulet for the home or business utilizing coins and “money” gemstone beads, such as aventurine or jade.  The prosperity knot can also be done in conjunction with the double coin knot.

The pentagram harness has a multitude of possibilities.  It can be used to ground and center a person for ritual.  It’s a wonderful new twist on the traditional Gardnerian bondage for initiations.  It can also be as a way to bound yourself to a deity for channeling or other practices.  Plus, best of all, it’s just plain witchy!

The last video that I would suggest looking at for knot magic is the rope panties video.  It combines the trinity knot, which can be seen as representative of the feminine or as the triple aspect of deity, and the snake weave, which can be seen as the masculine.  The panties are perfect for sex magic, true heiros gamos, or fertility magic.

Have fun with your knots, and remember that bondage should not cut off circulation or abraid skin.  While natural fiber ropes can be fun, soft nylon or cotton ropes are safest.

These folks are all tied up with knot magic:

Mystic Artisanshttps://www.facebook.com/mysticartisans

House of Oddities Movie Kickstarter Project: http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/bcottington85/house-of-oddities-the-story-of-the-atrocity-exhibi

Passion And Soulhttp://passionandsoul.com/

Tonia Brown:  www.thebackseatwriter.com

The Barbed Pentacle’s Second Birthday Bash: http://barbedpentacle.com/2013/06/second-birthday-bash/

All tied up, part 2: Wrap a snake around my thigh

If the Countess of Salisbury had a garter made of green snake skin, then I want one made out of Copperhead skin!

 

I’ve always been fascinated with garters and stockings.  They frame certain portions of the female anatomy in ways that pantyhose can’t.

Besides, unless it’s crotchless pantyhose, garters and stockings are the way to go for easy access.

Originally, garters were a necessity.  Woolen hose tended to slouch, which is never a comfortable situation.  Early garters were nothing more than a piece of string tied above or below the knee, over the hose, by both men and women.

As humans became more ingenious, they added buckles, latches, and eventually elastic.  Most garters were strictly utilitarian.  However, as women’s hems began to ascend up their legs, garters became fancier and were meant to be seen in brief glances.

Eventually, garters gave way to garter belts, which tend to be more comfortable, work better, and are less damaging to a person’s circulation.

Garters, while fashionable and sexy, have also traditionally been associated with witch craft.  The most famous of these associations is the story of the Countess of Salisbury, who just like Janet, had a wardrobe malfunction at a very public event.  It was speculated by Margret Murray, the anthropologist who has given false credence to most of Wicca’s most valued traditions, that the Countess was a Witch Queen whose badge of office slipped down her leg.  This, of course, is only an unfounded theory.

Gerald Gardner tied this onto his growing collection of witchcraft culture, and the practice of using a garter as a sign or badge of a witch’s degree or position became popular for a time.  (Click here to read some more about Pagans and garters:  http://afwcraft.blogspot.com/2013/03/the-witches-garter.html)

The practice of wearing a garter to denote your station has fallen out of practice within the general Wiccan and Pagan community.  It’s a shame.  I have wonderful visions of everyone having garters full of badges, like some Spiral Scout program gone horribly wrong.  Or of Pagans passing each other in the grocery store and furtively flashing a garter shot a la Christians drawing dirt fish.  Wouldn’t that be fun?  Plus, it would give you a handy place to stash extra libations or an athame for ritual!

In seriousness, though, committing to wearing garters denotes a person being bound to their path, their learning, and their position of service.  It’s hard to forget your duties to Deity and your fellow circle mates when you have something tight around your legs.

There’s nothing more natural, cheap, and easy than a garter made of ivy–for fidelity.

Want to be a good witch and make your own?

http://www.thegartergirl.com/2009/09/24/the-99-cent-wedding-garter-a-free-knitted-wedding-garter-pattern/

 

For more information about the fashion history of garters, check out: http://chestofbooks.com/food/household/Woman-Encyclopaedia-4/Dress-The-Story-Of-The-Garter.html#.UaLmjdJOQq9 http://chestofbooks.com/food/household/Woman-Encyclopaedia-4/Dress-The-Story-Of-The-Garter-Continued.html#.UaLljNJOQq8

These folks always catch the garter at a hand fasting:

 

 

All Tied Up, Part 1: Chastity or Bondage?

“Next and lastly I present the cords. They are of use to bind the sigils of the art, also the material basis. Also they are necessary in the oath.” –Gardnerian Book of Shadows, 1st degree initiation

The Cingulum, which is Latin for “girdle”, is a piece of clothing/tool that in our present day is rarely seen on Pagans.  It is typically a rope of some fiber and color that is worn around the waist.  Sure, Gardnerians still proudly wear them, but most Pagans are not even in traditions that bestow them any more.  This is a shame, because cingulums, also sometimes called “witch’s cords”, can be a lot of fun and quite useful.

Praecinge me, Domine, cingulo puritatis, et exstingue in lumbis meis humorem libidinis; ut maneat in me virtus continentia et castitatis.

Gird me, O Lord, with the girdle of purity, and extinguish in me all evil desires, that the virtue of chastity may abide in me. –Catholic Vestment Prayer

Wiccans are not the only ones to wear cingulums.  Originally the word was used to describe the belt that Roman soldiers wore.

Then it was tied on by the Catholic Church to describe the rope that monks wear around their waists.  I called and emailed a variety of different monks at Belmont Abbey, a local monastery, and no one would ever respond to my requests for an interview.

I guess my soul just isn’t worth saving.  It’s a pity because I can really rock a Catholic school girl outfit!  According to several different Internet sources, the Catholic cingulum is supposed to remind the monks of their vow of chastity and aid them in remaining pure and celibate.  Not exactly how a cingulum is used Wicca.

“Learn of the spirit that goeth with burdens that have not honour, for ’tis the spirit that stoopeth the shoulders and not the weight. Armour is heavy, yet it is a proud burden and a man standeth upright in it. Limiting and constraining any of the senses serves to increase the concentration of another. Shutting the eyes aids the hearing. So the binding of the initiate’s hands increases the mental perception, while the scourge increaseth the inner vision. So the initiate goeth through it proudly, like a princess, knowing it but serves to increase her glory. But this can only be done by the aid of another intelligence and in a circle, to prevent the power thus generated being lost. Priests attempt to do the same with their scourgings and mortifications of the flesh. But lacking the aid of bonds and their attention being distracted by their scourging themselves and what little power they do produce being dissipated, as they do not usually work within a circle, it is little wonder that they oft fail. Monks and hermits do better, as they are apt to work in tiny cells and coves, which in some way act as circles. The Knights of the Temple, who used mutually to scourge each other in an octagon, did better still; but they apparently did not know the virtue of bonds and did evil, man to man. But perhaps some did know? What of the Church’s charge that they wore girdles or cords?” –Gardnerian Book of Shadows, Of the Ordeal of the Magical Art

Sometimes the cord is the length of the person’s measure, which is the person’s height.  This practice is more symbolic than practical, and it refers to the myth of the Fates who would measure out a person’s life span and then cut it for death.  When the cord is a person’s measure, it is usually used in some version of an initiation, and the initiate is usually tied up in some form.   Sometimes the cord is 9 feet in length, which serves the practical purpose of aiding a witch in being able to cast a circle in the traditional circumference.  Cingulums can also denote a group member’s status or rank, or recognize an achievement or rite of passage.

Cingulums can be a lot of fun.  It’s an interesting mind fuck to be tied up with your measure during ritualistic sex or binding magic.  If you don’t have a cingulum, or if you want to create a cingulum for you or somebody else for a particular purpose, here’s how:

Materials

Yarn of various colors

Scissors

Tape (optional)

Unsharpened pencil or stick

Extra set of hands

Procedure

First decide the number of strands and colors that you want in your cingulum and whether your cingulum will be 9 feet or the length of your measure.  For a 9-foot cingulum, cut 19 feet strands of yarn.  For a cingulum that is the length of your measure, cut your yarn so that it is your height doubled plus a few extra inches.  Tie one end of your yarn strands to something sturdy and stationary, like a chair, and tie the other ends to a pencil or stick.  You can also tape the ends instead of tying them.  Now slowly back away from the stationary point until your yarn strands are pulled taunt.  Twist the strands deosil (clockwise) until the strands are wound tight.  If it starts to kink, then it’s time for the next step.  Now have your extra set of hands hold your cord in the middle while you bring your end of the cord to the end tied to the stationary point.  While the middle is still being held by the extra set of hands, slide the ends off of the pencil and untie the ends from the stationary point.  Tie both sets of ends together.  Now have the extra set of hands let go of the cord.  Your cord should be twisted around itself like a piece of rope and ready to wear.

Have fun, and remember that bondage should be tight but not so tight that it cuts off circulation, and bondage should never be done on anyone under the legal age of consent.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These folks caught the irony of the post:

Mystic Artisanshttps://www.facebook.com/mysticartisans

Passion And Soulhttp://passionandsoul.com/

Knotjokin Rope Floggershttp://www.knotjokin.etsy.com

Tonia Brown:  www.thebackseatwriter.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dr. Who bound me with his scarf while Capt. Reynolds used his belt! AKA the Geeky Kink Event

Pillow forts:  ”You may already know that they’re good for cuddling, but did you know that pillow forts are surprisingly excellent places for various kinds of beatings and a number of reasonably unnatural acts?”

If you’re looking for a place where the above statement is a painful reality, then the Geeky Kink Event II is for you.  The Geeky Kink Event will be held this year on November 2-4 at the The Piscataway Radisson  in Piscataway Township, NJ.  There’s still time to buy tickets to this very unique event.  Unlike your typical BDSM convention that is full of leather and latex, this event revels in the kinky and geeky.  So, get out your Dr. Who scarves, Brown Coats, and Star Trek go-go bootsl  The event is also Steampunk and Pagan friendly!

There are so many cool workshops, vendors, mixers, and entertainers scheduled, plus several awesome play areas, that you will be sleep deprived the whole weekend.  There’s something planned for everybody: from the über geek to the barely geeky.

Want more information?  http://thegeekykinkevent.com/

The vendors at this year’s event range from BDSM to Pagan supplies, from Steampunk baubles to mind-bending puzzles and everything in between (http://thegeekykinkevent.com/a-tetris-of-vendors/).  In addition to awesome and unique workshops that you won’t find offered anywhere else (http://thegeekykinkevent.com/learning-delectations/), there are tons and tons of fun social events planned.  Ever attended a kinky Shabbat?  Well, you can at the Geeky Kink Event.  What about bubble bondage?  It’s here too! (http://thegeekykinkevent.com/social/)  And don’t forget about the Dungeons!  Who can resist a Tardis with glory holes or the world’s largest pillow fort? (http://thegeekykinkevent.com/frolic-in-our-dungeon/)

There’s still plenty of time to register for the Geeky Kink Event. For all you kinky Pagans who take the whole week off to celebrate Samhain, this is a perfect way to finish up the season!

These folks think Geeks are Sexy:

The Geeky Kink Event http://thegeekykinkevent.com/

Passion And Soul: http://passionandsoul.com/

Knotjokin Rope Floggers: http://www.knotjokin.etsy.com

Tonia Brown www.thebackseatwriter.com

Erotic Sensations http://eroticsensations.us

Just Smack Me!: http://barbedpentacle.com/just-smack-me-a-wooden-spoon-decorating-contest/

The Nyx Oracle

Nyx is the Greek goddess of the night.  In our modern mythology, the character of Elvira is probably the best embodiment of this ancient archetype.  Born from Chaos, Nyx is both creatrix and a destroyer.  She can bring pain and unhappiness, or she can soothe it all away under the cover of darkness.

Nyx is the mother of Sleep, Death, Atmosphere, Day, Blame, Doom, Death, Dreams, the Fates, Retribution, Deception, Friendship, Age, Strife, and according to some texts, Love.  She was also known to operate as an oracle from the depths of a cave.  Outside of the cave, ecstatic dances took place while the petitioners waited for their answers.

Nyx Oracle Ritual

This ritual can be rewritten for a solitaire or a couple, but it works best in a small to large group.  One person needs to volunteer to be Nyx.  This position should not be taken lightly.  The person doesn’t have to be female, but he or she should be very comfortable with a goddess taking over their body, should be at least vaguely familiar with Nyx, and should not be opposed to bondage nor claustrophobic.
Timing:  Obviously, this is a night time ritual.  The best time to do it would be the dark of the moon.  That way Selene is not competing for attention.
Materials: Hood (for Nyx), mugwort or other such divinatory incense, pen and paper, drums or other instruments, absinthe (it’s worth the time and money to hunt down the real stuff–not the cheap stuff a lot of places sell.  For more info on absinthe: http://www.absinthebuyersguide.com/), and pieces of rope to bind “Nyx” with that will represent her children.
The Ritual: Before the ritual, “Nyx” needs to decide if the oracle will be received after a long ritual or if the oracle will be received during sleep via dreams.  If the second option is the case, then a tent needs to be set up for Nyx in the ritual space and a babysitter appointed since Nyx will still be in bondage.
Set up your outdoor ritual space as you normally would.  Light a large censor or several small ones and place the mugwort on it.  The smoke should completely fill the ritual space.  Now pass the absinthe around several times, including Nyx in the rotation.  Don’t forget to libate to Nyx as well.  Next, bring Nyx forward into the middle of the circle.  An invocation to Nyx should be said, either by one person or the group.  The invocation can be original or borrowed.  As Nyx is invoked, the hood should be placed over Nyx’s head and that person should open him or herself up to the Goddess, allowing the Goddess to take over.
Now the group needs to decide and settle on three or four of Nyx’s children that have been bringing them the most problems.  More can be selected, but three or four is a good number.
Now, it’s the bondage rigger’s turn.  The bondage for this ritual can be simple or fancy.  For each rope, the rigger should say the following as Nyx is tied up: “Nyx, your child_____________, has been giving us problems.  I bind your child ___________to you and ask that you tell us how to deal with the problems caused by your child.”
If Nyx is not going to be sleeping, then he or she needs to be helped to a sitting or lying down position if he or she has been left standing.  If Nyx is going to be sleeping, then Nyx needs to be helped into the tent.  Either way, the baby sitter should stay close to Nyx with pen and paper to write down the oracle message.  As the participants wait for the messages, they should feel free to drink more, dance, and play music.  The energy raised from the music and dancing aids “Nyx” to make more of a connection with Nyx.  
Once the ritual is over, either because the oracle has spoken or because Nyx has woken up, Nyx and her children need to be released.  This can be done in a reverse manner than the children were bound to her.
“Nyx, thank you for your wisdom.  We now release you and and your child_________.  We release your child __________ from our lives.”  As the child is released, the rope for that child is untied.
After Nyx has been completely unbound, make sure to say a prayer of thanks to Nyx for her presence at the ritual.  The person who was Nyx is probably going to need some aftercare, such as food, coffee, and a willing ear to listen.

These folks know Nyx too:
Erotic Sensations http://eroticsensations.us/

The Holly Boy tied up the Ivy Girl (or maybe it’s the other way around)! Happy Litha!

I find it really amusing how my last post really upset some folks.  However, most people chose to post their complaints on other people’s Facebook pages or social media sites instead of having the courage to post on my mine.  Tsk tsk.  But that’s ok.  Good or bad, you all really boosted my stats.  Thanks!  My sponsors are thrilled.
With that said, Happy Litha!  In the Northern Hemisphere, this is the longest day of the year.  The long sun filled evening is perfect for outdoor play and ritual if you’re lucky to have a private outdoor play space.  I debated how to approach Litha, because there’s just so many ways to go, but the Ivy Girl has been giving me a “come hither” look for a while, so I decided to follow.
Please note: When I use the word “Ivy” in this post, I’m am speaking of English or Boston Ivy, not poison ivy.
See?  One leaf, not three.
While the standing myth of the Oak King and the Holly King are well known (The Oak King rules from Yule to Litha, and the Holly King rules from Litha to Yule.  At each of those sabats, there’s a fight, with the victor being the ruler and the slain king’s blood acting as sacrifice for the coming season.), many Pagans do not know about the Ivy girl.  The Ivy girl has had many shapes, forms, and duties over the years.  Some folks see her as the Holly King’s helper and connect her with the wren of Cutty Wren fame.  Other folks see her as winter and the Holly King or Holly Boy’s foe.  Other folks see her as a go-between for both the Oak King and the Holly King, neither serving or belonging to either but enjoying and balancing both.  This last guise is how I see her.  In this form, she can be seen as representing the in-between times of Spring and Fall that tie the time of Plenty and Leisure (Harvest) with the time of Leanness and Perseverance (Winter).
There are lots of ways to honor the Ivy Girl, Holly King, and Oak King this Litha.  The easiest and most passive way is to buy an ivy plant and try to keep it alive.  Ivy, which represents fidelity, is a great gift for new couples.  If the plant dies, you can always tell them that it means one of them must be cheating (it’s doesn’t really, but they don’t know that!). Ivy vines, because of the plant’s meaning, is also very appropriate for a handfasting cord.
My favorite way to honor the Ivy Girl is with bondage.  Ivy, like all vines, are really just Nature’s ropes.  For light bondage, one strand of ivy can be used.  If sturdier bonds are called for, multiple strands of ivy can be twisted into a rope, or a rope and be used for the base bondage with ivy intertwined over top for a nice look.  Ivy also makes a nice, sexy outfit, as can be seen in the first photo.  If you want to honor all three Solstice players, tie the one you love the best to a strong oak tree with ivy vines and use holly leaves to awaken his or her senses before having your way (consensually, of course).  If outdoor play is out of the question, seek out a piece of oak furniture.  The wood will still convey the same strong qualities.
As with any sort of S&M and or sex ritual, be responsible.  Use safe words and condoms and respect boundaries.  No under aged participants or spectators.  Outdoor sex should be on private property.  Bondage should allow for blood flow.  If you break skin, use first aid to treat it and clean your equipment properly.  And for heaven’s sake, avoid the spine and kidney area! 

All Tied Up

I’ve been a little tied up lately, suspended between all my different worlds and responsibilities.  However, now that May(hem) will be over soon, things should calm down some and my bonds will be loosened.

The winner of the Erotic Sensations (http://eroticsensations.us/) three candle gift package is Catherine W.!  Please email me your mailing address at chirp_sparrow@yahoo.com.  A big thank you to Erotic Sensations for being a sponsor of the Barbed Pentacle the last couple of weeks and for sponsoring our giveaway.

The winner of the Barbed Pentacle prize pack is Bones!  Please email me your mailing address at chirp_sparrow@yahoo.com.

There’s lots of fun blogs in store.  Just because I’ve been in bondage, doesn’t mean I haven’t been busy writing!  In the next week or so, we’ll finish up the “May You Never Thirst” series.  Then, we’ll start examining hunting and Paganism.  If you hunt, fish, or trap, and you’re Pagan, please email at chirp_sparrow@yahoo.com.  I’d love to interview you.  Also, along with the hunting series, look for a review of Tonia Brown’s new novel, Skin Trade (http://thebackseatwriter.blogspot.com/)!

Soon, not too soon, but soon, the Barbed Pentacle will be moving to a new home.  Yes, things will be different, and you may not like them at first, but it will be a safer place–with far less censorship–to explore the grittier side of Paganism.  Look for more information on the new site address in the coming weeks.

New drawing items will be posted soon!

These folks are all tied up too:
Erotic Sensations: http://eroticsensations.us/
Tonia Brown: http://thebackseatwriter.blogspot.com/

My Blogoversary Party Post: Sexy, Dark, and Bloody–Of Wiccan Bondage

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Of Wiccan Bondage
Photo by Nobuyoshi Araki
Ever since I’ve found this photo, I’ve been fascinated by it.  I like pretty Asian women, and I like them even better in shibari or other bondage.  I had thought originally that I might write a bit of fiction using this photo as inspiration (because believe it or not I can write some very strokable prose), but my muse has led me in a different direction.

I think all religion is bondage.  If you’re a good and proper adherent to your religion’s beliefs, then you’re a slave. Even with “free will” and “free choice”, if you’re a really ardent believer then you’re a slave to the Divine force that you follow.  Just as the Nazi’s had “Work brings freedom” over the gates of Auschwitz, I’ve had riggers whisper, “Bondage brings freedom” before they put the finishing touches on me. They were right.

People who are not into bondage, or any sort of dominant/submissive acts, may not understand what the bondage riggers meant. In voluntary physical bondage, you have willingly given up all control. You can struggle, but there’s no reason to because you can’t get away. You can scream, but there’s no reason to because your words aren’t going to change the plan that your Dom(me) has decided upon. There’s no reason to do anything but trust and go with the flow, and in that forced helpless state, your mind is set free to discover things about yourself you’re normally too busy to notice. Things are quiet enough, finally, for your mind to be free to roam within the depths of itself.

Spiritual bondage works the same way. Once you have given your will over to your Deity, and you fully trust your divinely provided intuition, you’re free from worry, free from guilt, free from distrusting the way things work, free to embrace happiness. This freedom opens up other freedoms that often merge with the same freedom that physical bondage brings. I know all of this sounds a little like butterflies and ladybugs, but just like everything, there’s a spider and scorpion side too.

Wiccans who embrace all aspects of their faith fully are bound by some fairly stout ropes, that if broken by free will, can bring about some pretty powerful strokes from the Cosmic scourge. The main belief that Wiccans (myself included) are bound by is the Wiccan Rede, “‘An it harm none, do what thou will.” You can ask five people, and each person will give you a different interpretation of it. This is where the freedom of being guided by Divinity comes into play. I believe that the Rede should be interpreted differently by each person because each person engages life differently. However, despite this belief, if I go against what my God and Goddess are leading me to do, if I break my bond not to harm, then there are consequences–just as there are in the play room when you choose not to stay put.

Most Wiccans also follow the Threefold Rule (or Law): What you do, say, and spell, will come back to you threefold. This is where the Cosmic scourge comes into play. Since you have willingly decided to be spiritually bound by Divinity, you have to trust that if you’ve been “good” that the lash will be soft and playful (and maybe lined with fur!), but feel certain that if you’ve broken your bonds, the lash will be harsh and bloody. The same is true of being in bondage to Divinity as was true in the Old Testament of being bonded to Rehoboam, “My father chastised you with whips, but I will chastise you with scorpions.” I believe that because most Wiccans have sought out this spiritual bondage and were not forced into it, that the Universe holds us to a higher standard of behavior. Like any good submissive, we need to push ourselves to meet that challenge all the while realizing that we’ll never reach perfection.

Just as all Wiccans have been given different interpretations of the Rede, Wiccans also engage their Deities in a myriad of different ways. While a lot of Wiccans like to chase the fluffy bunny aspects of Divinity down the endless rabbit hole, I tend to like to linger in the shadows for a quickie against the wall with my God and Goddess. Sometimes they don’t even take my panties off; they just pull them aside. Then we rip the fluffy bunny apart barehanded and enjoy it raw.

My bondage is sexy, dark, and bloody. My bondage has been sealed with sex and blood, just like an “Old Time” Gardnerian handfasting. And that’s as it should be. The only key that will unlock my shackles is my trust in my Deities, since my bondage and servitude to them has set me free.
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Dogs and Bitches: Happy Lupercalia! (oh and that other holiday too……)

As many of you may remember from the Scourge series of blogs, Lupercalia is typically celebrated on February 15th.  Lupercalia is all about scourging for fertility, wolves, Pan, and fucking!
“I said bite my neck!”

Many scholars suspect that most of our Valentine’s Day traditions are derived from Roman Lupercalia practices.  Over the years, the original practices, which included racing around naked, killing dogs and goats, showering in blood, and lots of sex, has been toned down.  Thank the Victorians.  It’s all their fault.

Then there’s the St. Valentine issue………..

According to the best source for information on the web, Wikipedia, Valentine “was arrested and imprisoned upon being caught marrying Christian couples and otherwise aiding Christians who were at the time being persecuted by Claudius in Rome. Helping Christians at this time was considered a crime. Claudius took a liking to this prisoner – until Valentinus tried to convert the Emperor – whereupon this priest was condemned to death. He was beaten with clubs and stoned; when that failed to kill him, he was beheaded outside the Flaminian Gate. Various dates are given for the martyrdom or martyrdoms: 269, 270, or 273.”

However, which Valentine was it?  There are many different records from that time for many different churchmen named Valentine (and all the different variations) and very little is know about any of them.  Why did the Emperor Claudius make it illegal for folks to get married?  Because he didn’t have saltpeter.  He felt that if his soldiers had wives at home, instead of just fun-time girls, that they would be distracted and lose their desire to fight his wars.  So, to make sure that this didn’t happen, he outlawed marriage.  (Evidently, just like always in those early days, the Christians just couldn’t follow the rules.  No wonder they lost their heads!)

So where does this leave us?  Personally, I say fuck Valentine!  Headless corpses can’t tell you to stop!

The Sacred Marriage

But seriously, as Pagans, Valentine’s Day can be turned into a celebration of the Sacred Marriage between the Lord and Lady.  At this time in the wheel of the year, the Goddess is about to make her ascent up from the Underworld as the Maiden and the Lord is transforming from a child to a young man–ready to sow his oats! There’s no reason why you and your chosen partner shouldn’t do the same.

Whether you’re bound to someone…..

Or footloose and fancy free to do as you please.
If you have a partner, something fun to do for them is to wrap yourself up as their present.

It lends itself to endless possibilities.  Or, if you’re solo this year, try reconnecting to the sexual side of your chosen deities.

You could reconnect with your Goddess…..

Your God…..

Or be adventurous and bi-curious and go for a Ménage à trois.

So, what do I want from my partner on Lupercalia/Valentine’s Day?

I’m thinking about some knife play………or maybe a tattoo…….

But most of all, I just want him to