Cover My Body in the Bonnie Blue Flag

This post is part of the annual Pagan Values Blogject:

Because of the delicate nature of this post, I’m taking off my shit-kicker boots and putting on my pointe shoes.

I am a Caucasian female who has lived in the South all of my life.  I grew up in a town in South Carolina who granted a parade permit to the Ku Klux Klan every year.  I really thought nothing of them.  When I did think of the KKK, we thought they were sad, funny, and pathetic.  I grew up around people who flew the Confederate battle flag.  Some of them were racists, some of them were not, a few of them were African-American.  When I was a small child, my tree house was built next to a forgotten slave cemetery in the woods.  The graves were sunken and over grown, and the tombstones that remained were plain field rocks.  Nobody really gave it any thought.  Both of my maternal grandmother’s grandfathers fought for the Confederacy.  She grew up sitting on their laps listening to them telling stories about their war days.  Neither one personally owned slaves.  At one time her mother’s family had own several slaves, but not at the time of the Civil War.  On my paternal grandparents’ side, there are ancestors who fought on both sides of the Civil War and who were on both sides of the western Virginia succession debate.  I was living in SC during the 2000 debate about whether or not to remove the Confederate flag from on top of the state house.  I was among those citizens who conceded that perhaps atop the state house may not be appropriate and could offend people, but that at an appropriate memorial on the state house grounds was fine.

Now, there is a push to erase this flag from everyone’s memory.

Erasing history is always a dangerous move.  However, judging history in hindsight based on modern values is just as dangerous.  Although I am a states’ rights advocate, I’m not going to twirl into that debate regarding the Civil War.  I am, however, going to dance into the debate about the First Amendment, since that’s another great love of mine.  It is true that to some people the Confederate battle flag represents hate, hate that they feel towards other people and hate that they feel from other people.  It is true that to some people, the Confederate battle flag simply represents a chapter of America’s past.  However, the Confederate battle flag is quickly becoming a symbol of free speech, which is probably not what the opponents of the flag want to have happen.  The problem is that very few people are breathing deeply and trying to find a compromise.  I have read and listened to many people, a majority of which are Pagans, rant and rail against the battle flag.  A great many think it should be banned out right.  That’s an extremely unsafe solution.  If you start banning symbols, then before you know it symbols that you love and hold dear could become banned.  How many Christians have wanted pentagrams banned?  What about the swastika?  It’s a solar symbol held dear by Hindus, Pagans, and Catholics (St. Brigid’s Cross).  You may say, “apples and oranges, Sparrow”, but it’s really not.  They’re all just designs that we as humans have given meaning.  If the energy that’s being put into the flag debate was put into solving the inequalities between races and socio-economic classes in America, then things would be much nicer and a lot of the hate speech would disappear.  Some people will always hate.  Some people will never be able to let go of the past.  But things would be better.

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The Confederate battle flag is probably not the most appropriate flag to fly at municipal locations.  However, if it’s not appropriate to fly it at a Confederate War Memorial, then where is it appropriate.  And no, you cannot answer, “No where.”  There will be no revisionist history here.  Remember, the Nazis were revisionists.  Yes, I know that was a rich statement, but it’s true.  When you start banning emblems, you become just like a Nazi.

Personally, I think the Bonnie Blue Flag is a good compromise.  There is no way to make everybody happy.  It makes me sad and sick to my stomach that there is no way to make everybody happy in this situation, but there’s just not.  And, despite what the media and blowhards would like you to believe, there is really no right or wrong answer here.  The only really wrong answer here is to ignore the First Amendment and to ignore both sides of this issue.  Pagans, you should be worried about this.  It’s a slippery slope.  You ban one thing and there’s a precedent set to ban all kinds of things.  Look at France with the head veil.


The Bonnie Blue Flag can still be seen in many of the state flags today.  It stands for being brave and taking a stand.  It stands for breaking away from the pack and doing something different.  It stands for saying, “Fuck you!” to the governing body that is oppressing you.  It stands for rebellion against the status quo in hopes of a more free future society.  The best compromise is flying the Bonnie Blue Flag.  A great number of the Confederacy’s ideologies can be argued to be completely morally wrong, but the members of the secessionists’ convention took at stand for what they believed in.  Slavery is always wrong and shouldn’t be glorified, but using your energy to battle for long dead slaves when presently living slaves desperately need your help is also wrong and a huge waste.  Pagans don’t have sins, but there are certain expectations that our deities charge us with.  One of those is being good stewards of our time, talents, energies, and emotions.  If you want to stop buying something, stop buying foreign tuna.  Do you know how many Thai men and boys and other foreign nationals die aboard fishing slave ships?  You think I’m kidding, but look it up.

Bree, where’s the titty tassels for your pole dance? I wanna see a money shot, bitch!


At least take off your bra and splash water on your chest! Those nipples would create a more lasting image than you simply in hand cuffs!


Hey Nikki, take your top off! If you really want to drum up support over the flag issue, make some pin-up pictures of you wrapped in the SC state flag!

The thing to remember when looking back at America’s history of slavery is that no nationality or religion at that time was innocent.  Some Caucasians owned slaves.  Some free African-Americans owned slaves. Some Jews owned slaves.  Some Native Americans owned Native American and African slaves.  In Africa, Arab Muslims owned and traded in slaves.  African Muslims owned and traded in slaves.  African Pagans owned and traded in slaves.  Nobody’s innocent so nobody should be casting stones, burning flags, or pointing fingers.  Everybody’s ancestors are guilty to one degree or another.  Compromise is what needs to occur. Fly the Bonnie Blue Flag and the American Flag if you feel compelled to fly flags.

William Ellison

Judah P. Benjamin

Don’t forget to give thanks to Lady Liberty this Independence Day for allowing the US to have the freedom to debate issues like the Confederate Battle Flag.  Also remember to give proper thanks for her help in the SCOUS decision about gay marriage.

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What the word “network” really means, mother fuckers!

It’s that time again!  It’s June, which means that it’s time for the Pagan Values Blogject!  This year I’ll be posting two posts that both deal with interacting with people other than yourself.  To see other PVB posts from me and other people for 2015 and previous years, check out:

Very few people these days, Pagans and non-Pagans, seem to understand what a social network really is.  It is not a place to post all kinds of crap about yourself and then expect no one to see it and share,  nor is it a place to post all kinds of stuff about yourself and then to become depressed because nobody comments on your post.  A social network is a place where you are suppose to connect with people in a social manner, for whatever purpose that may be: personal, business, or religious.  That means that you need to use some common sense, good manners, and put your best fucking face on.  That means that you should expect to get friend invites from people you don’t know who think you might be neat to get to know based solely on the tiny bit about yourself that you’ve put in your profile.  Don’t be a dick about it.  If you don’t want to friend the person, just hit decline.  Don’t send them rude messages demanding to know why you sent them a friend request.  And the sites that make you message a person before you send them a friend request (um, like Fet Life) are ludicrous.  It’s a social network site.  You’re there to make friends with people you don’t know.  By sending a friend request you are asking that person to be your friend.  It’s tedious and redundant to have to send a message and then send a request.

People judge you on your posts.  If you rant all the time, you’re going to appear to never be happy.  If you talk shit all the time, people are going to think you’re never happy.  Social media sites are not suppose to be used as group therapy.  That’s why you go to the health department and get hooked up with a group that meets once a week in a church basement or community center.  If you use social media sites as group therapy, you come off as crazy.  If you find that you’ve used social media in any of the ways mentioned above in this paragraph, then you need a blog.

Apate, Greek Goddess of Deceit

Pagans, if you join groups on social media sites that cater to Pagans, people will know you’re Pagan.  If you post Pagan things on your social media accounts, people who you may not want to know that you’re Pagan will soon find out that you’re Pagan.  Therefore, don’t whine and complain when you’re suddenly kicked out of the broom closet.  You are the one who put that information on the Internet for everyone to see, despite what you think you’re privacy settings are set to.  Everybody, especially the government, can find it all out because you put it on social networking sites.

If somebody does something with your information that you don’t like, don’t confront that person in public, especially at first.  Use some common sense and manners and private message the person.  Calling somebody out in public is only going to make the situation worse.  You may think you’re a badass, but chances are the person you just called out is a bigger badass.  And if they’re Pagan, they may work more in the gray areas of magic than you do.  Be nice and private message.  The reality of the situation is that for the most part, you rarely really know the people that you’re connected to on a social network site, but I would bet good money that it’s very easy to track down your physical location from your social network account.  Don’t piss people off needlessly.  It could backfire in ways you’ve never imagined.  Also, don’t be stupid enough to make threats online.  I see people getting mad over stupid things and doing this all the time.  If you make a threat online, then it’s a public threat which can be used against you in a court of law.

And finally, don’t be offended when people share things from your social networking account without asking.  If you don’t want it shared, don’t fucking post it.

Most of what I’ve said here is common sense, but nobody, especially the average Pagan, seems to have any common sense or manners anymore.

I guess they were too busy meditating when their parents and teachers tried to teach them how to be polite to other people.

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St. Aradia: A Pagan Values Blogject Post

As long time readers know, I look forward to the Pagan Values Blogject every June because it gives me an opportunity to rant in ways that I don’t normally engage in on this blog (except for occasionally in a PSA),and it is often the entry that breaks my spring hiatus from fucking in the fields.  The same is more or less true this year.  If you haven’t already checked it out, here is a link to the blogject:  If you write a blog, I encourage you to participate.

I’m a documentary nut.  Netflix passively aggressively feeds this addiction by supplying me with cool suggestions and then once I pick one, it conveniently goes out for fifteen minutes or some such FCC bullshit as that.  A lot of documentaries cover the plight of people around the world and here in the US.  You know that any time you see the word “plight” in the documentary description that these people are not living in pleasant circumstances.  In fact, “oppressive” often follows “plight” in these teasers.  My most recent documentary fixation has been in the women’s studies department with titles like “It’s a girl!” and “Half the sky”.  Not pleasant documentaries, but timely ones.  (There was that one about a kibbutz  that was really interesting, but that’s for another post.)

Aradia, that controversial figure that is revered by many Pagans, was all about empowerment and overcoming oppression.  According to Leland and his “truthful” accounts, Aradia promised “ye shall all be freed from slavery, / And so ye shall be free in everything.”  If you slog through the text, Aradia in the end comes off as a little bit like Joan Baez and a little bit of a Commie or at least a socialist.  However, those are not necessarily bad things.  Those are some of the same virtues that Franklin Roosevelt and his lovely wife Eleanor had, and with out them, poor people and red necks all over the US would be starving and worse off than they are now.

Although a lot of Pagans view Aradia as a goddess-type figure, I don’t.  I’m really fascinated by her, but I see her more as a saint.  She’s someone who may or may not have been alive at one point, she did good works supposedly, and you can pray to her to intercede on your behalf.

Aradia was all about ending oppression.  Even the most apathetic and cold-hearted Pagans can get behind the cause of lifting an oppressive force in a person’s life.  While there are many Pagan groups that have started their own programs or that are supporting already existing programs in their own areas, there are many Pagans out there who do nothing.  Even the poorest Pagans (and it’s these folks who often do the most) can usually scrounge a few pennies out from underneath the couch cushions to leave in the “leave a penny/take a penny” box at the convenience store.  We are a loose collection of religious beliefs that at its core values freedom over oppressive forces.  Since this is the case, I challenge you this summer to follow Aradia’s example and choose a cause to support in some way that will lift an oppressive force from somebody else’s life.  If you hear about a really cool Pagan organization that is doing this or if your Pagan group is doing something cool, please feel free to email me at  You never know when you might need St. Aradia to come and lift your oppression.

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The Diddler Beside You: A PSA and PVB contribution

Do you know who is standing beside you in circle?  I mean REALLY know that person.  Does it matter?  Maybe.  We all have skeletons in the closet, and while most of those skeletons have nothing to do with our chosen religious groups, some of them do–despite what you may think.  And yes, I’m flying into an area that some of you may see as hypocritical air space, but it needs to be done.

If you are a sex offender, i.e. on a sex offender registry or have ever been on a sex offender registry, you have a moral obligation to inform your religious group–regardless of whether or not that group allows children to participate.  You may have actually done the crime, you may feel that you were wrongly accused, you may have actually been wrongly accused, or you may have just gotten caught literally with your pants down, but you have an obligation to tell the religious leaders of the group that you’re attending.  Often times this is a legal obligation, but it is also a moral obligation and just a common courtesy.

Why am I bringing this up?  Well, it’s June, so I get to write more opinion based entries in support of the Pagan Values Blogject (, but it’s also an issue, not just in the Pagan community but in many religious communities.  Some Pagans who are on the list don’t feel that it’s necessary to tell anyone or explain anything, even when they maintain that they were wrongly convicted of diddling someone they didn’t have permission to diddle.  And it’s sad, but the people who actually are wrongly convicted are usually the ones who are forth- coming and willingly fulfill their obligation to tell.

Some Pagan group members feel that they shouldn’t question their members about this, that they should just welcome everyone in–even when they legally should not because of minors in attendance.  We’re not Christians; we’re not obligated to love everyone and certainly not to forgive.  And given the nature of our religion (i.e. the Great Rite, Beltane, sky clad, etc.), we need to be more cautious and selective than the Christians and other religions about who attends our functions.

We are often shocked when we realize that a sex offender has been in our midst.  While it’s easy to blame the sex offender (as I just did in the previous paragraphs), it’s the groups’ members’ responsibility too.  Each state has a sex offender data base.  There is also a national database.  However, sometimes looking into someone’s background can been a headache.  Most sex offenders only have to stay on a list for ten years.  The national database does not include everybody from all the states.  The state databases often are not accurate.  And even more confusing and unsettling is that sex offenders often move from state to state and a lot of the times they will neglect to register in the state that they currently reside.  Some states don’t even require sex offenders from other states to register.

So where does this leave us?  Sex offenders don’t have to worship with you.  Paganism, but Wicca in particular, can be a fulfilling solitary religion.  If you are clergy (and I’m speaking in the ordained or trained sense, not the “priesthood of the believer” sense), though, you are obligated by the nature of your calling to provide religious support to anyone who asks, but you’re not obligated to invite them to your group.  Some cities have groups specifically for folks who cannot attend ritual with children.  If there is a group like that in your city, you can recommend that group to the sex offender.  If there’s not, then you could suggest the sex offender start one.  However, chances are that the sex offender is going to be really angry when you ask him or her to leave.

What if you’re not clergy?  Some groups already have policies in place regarding how they handle matters such as sex offenders in their midst.  If your group doesn’t, then they should seriously think about adopting one.  If you find out that a group member is on a registry or was in the past, it’s your moral obligation to discreetly tell a clergy member.  Don’t be a gossip (because in this situation that can have legal ramifications too), but somebody in charge needs to know for legal reasons.  What if your group decides to allow a sex offender to worship with them because there’s no legal reason why they shouldn’t stay, but you feel uncomfortable?  Then you need to leave.  Nothing’s tying you there, and if you feel that you can’t leave, then you’re probably in a cult.

And when you’re browsing the registry, looking up members, don’t forget to look up for your priests and priestesses too.  Sex offenders lead family oriented Pagan groups all the time.  If something seems wrong, call the police.  You pay taxes.  Make them work!


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Multiple love, not multiple bastards

Polyamory. I’m sure by just reading that one word you already have an opinion formed. Monogamy is a much easier relationship arrangement than polyamory, even if you have trouble being monogamous. 

 In a true polyamorous relationship, all the partners involve have to strive to make sure that everyone gets equal time and attention with everyone else involved and that jealousy and strife are kept to a minimum. From personal experience, I can assure you that giving equal time to everyone and keeping jealous thoughts and actions at a minimum is much easier typed than done.

Polyamory, and other such free love concepts like open relationships and swinging, also entail a great deal of responsibility. The lovers involved have the responsibility of fidelity, emotional support and integrity, and contraception–for both the prevention of disease and children. I’ve noticed that a lot of Pagans, in particularly men but not always, think “oh, we’re all about nature and such we don’t need condoms” or they leave it all up to the woman (which just seems to be a universal male tendency). 

 Or, which is more truthful, the people involve just don’t care. When this happens, you end up with a lot of unexpected children that often are not financially or emotionally supported by the father. I’ve been hearing about this more and more in the community and it bothers me. Polyamory does not mean that you can leave a trail of bastards behind you as you bounce from one festival to another or even one group to another. 

 It does not mean that you can sprinkle your seed across the land like dandelion down, nor does it mean, ladies, that children should pop up like mushrooms every time you spread your legs. It’s not that hard to take 10 minutes to be responsible! If you can’t afford children, then you need to save up for at least condoms and spermicide (and don’t just use the spermicide dumbasses! I’ve heard that excuse too!) if not morning after pills as well.
I don’t know how the law operates in other states and countries, but in North Carolina if you don’t pay your child support, your ass ends up in jail. Now, to be fair, the way that the child support rate is figured is not always just to the paying party (which is not always the father), and if the paying parent’s circumstances change, it’s usually next to impossible to get that rate decreased. However, in most cases, I have very little sympathy when mommas and daddies end up in jail for not paying child support, especially when the child was born completely out of any sort of wedlock or other serious or religious relationship, and you owe on more than one child by more than one partner. Suck it up and take your month in jail or go get a fucking job and stop fucking everything that moves!

Misdemeanors at the Altar: 2nd blog for The Pagan Values Blogject

I don’t believe that Wiccan clergy in particular, and Pagan clergy in general, should have set fees for their services. I think love offerings are wonderful if the person receiving a service wants to offer one, and I think that within reason now that gas prices are exorbitant, it’s acceptable to ask for a little bit of money for gas if you have to drive farther than 30 miles or so.
Why am I opposed to clergy asking for payment? For one thing, being a priest or a priestess is a calling that should not under any circumstances hinge on being paid. If you’ve truly have been called to be clergy, then the thought of posting a fee schedule is probably abhorrent. Religion is not a business. The other reason why I’m very much opposed to clergy asking for money for their services is that the vast majority of Pagan clergy do not have any sort of divinity degree. They’re not professionals, although they should always strive to act in a professional manner. If, for example, a priest/priestess has a divinity degree from an accredited institution (which Cherry Hill Seminary, unfortunately, is not yet), then I can maybe see a small stipend being offered to the person by the organization that they serve. But the bottom line is that living off of those that you serve is wrong.
Many Wiccans, and to a certain extend some Pagans, tend to follow only one rule when it comes to morals: “‘An it harm none, do as thou will.” While this seems like a simple enough thing to comprehend on the surface, it’s an extremely complicated and complex notion. I’ve noticed that a lot of Wiccans do not apply the Wiccan Rede to their treatment of Pagan clergy, and maybe it’s because payment is usually not requested.
If a clergy person is down to earth and ethical, I’ve noticed that many Pagans feel that they can walk all over them. They treat their clergy in a way that they would have never treated their Christian clergy (yes, I did just make that sweeping statement because it’s a statistical fact that a majority of the Pagans in America were previously Christian). If a clergy person is aloof, haughty, and unethical, then an undeserved respect seems to be bestowed upon them. Maybe it’s because the person just expects respect instead of working to deserve it. I guess it works along the lines that if two items are placed side by side, one of inferior quality and one of excellent quality, and the inferior one is priced higher than the good quality one, the inferior product almost always sells out before the low priced, good quality product does.
As a priestess, the most common form of disrespect that I’ve encountered is people contacting me for services–usually a handfasting–and then jilting me at the altar after I’ve done a lot of work on their behalves. Sometimes I’ve already gotten handfastingcords to them and rearranged my schedule when I’m notified that my services are no longer needed. The quotes below are from actual emails that I’ve received.  Unfortunately, the quotes below are only a sampling.  I could publish a small book full of the jilted altar emails that I’ve received.  If you see a quote from an email that you’ve sent me, then I hope you’re suitably embarrassed and that it rained during your handfasting ceremony.
Before we continue, I want to make it clear that none of these emails are from people that are members of my religious organizations. The type of disrespect that I’ve received from them is usually more along the lines of what you expect from rude teenagers whose mommas didn’t beat them enough when they were growing up. It’s nothing that half an hour on my X-beam wouldn’t fix!  

(Names have been changed.)
“Hey! I am interested in talking to you about doing a handfasting/wedding type ceremony for us, we live in ++++++ near ++++++ and would come to the mountains preferrably. Please email me back a # or contact me via call or txt at +++++++.
Thank You!!
“Dear Tommy, What day, time, and location were you thinking about? I’m about 30 minutes from you. Did you want just a priestess or did you want a ceremony with a priest and a priestess.
Sparrow Brown”
“Hey Sparrow! Thank you for getting back with me, i didnt know it but a friend of mine who is Wiccan is ordained and said she would do the ceremony for us. It will be cool having her do it since i’ve known her for years. We are excited about it too!
Thanks again for getting back to me.
********************************************************************************* “Hello Sparrow, 
 My name is Christine. My fiance and I are planning a handfasting ceremony for July 14 in +++++++++. We live in ++++++ and own a piece of property in +++++++ and that is where we are planning on having the ceremony. Do your travel to +++++++ to preform ceremonies and are you available on July 14 of this year? We have just started looking for someone that would be able to preform the ceremony. 
 I look forward to hearing back from you, 
 ”Dear Christine I am available. Do you want just me, or would you like to have a priest present too? 
 Sparrow Brown” 
 ”Hi Sparrow, 
 Do you do legally recognized hand fasting ceremonies? We really only wanted to have one officiator present. How much do you charge to preform the ceremony? You are welcome to call me so that we can go over the details, my number is +++++++. 
 I look forward to hearing from you, 
 ”I am legal in the state of NC. In order to make it legal, you’ll need to get a marriage certificate from the county where the “wedding” is going to be held (++++++ Co.). The state doesn’t care what form the ceremony takes, as long as all the paper work is filled out and they get their money. I don’t charge anything for performing rituals, but if you feel lead to give a love offering, the money will be split between +++++++++ organization and +++++++++ organization. What time of day is good for calling? 
 ”Hi Sparrow, 
 So what you are saying is that I will need to get a marriage license and marriage certificate from +++++++ County? The license is obtained prior to the ceremony and the certificate is filled out after the ceremony and submitted to the County, is that correct? I am available by phone all day on Tuesdays, Thursdays, Saturdays and Sundays. On Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays I am available after 6:00 PM. The exception to today is that I have an appointment at 4:00 this afternoon for about an hour. I look forward to hearing from you. Blessings, 
 ”Yes, that is correct. You and your fiance obtain the paper work from +++++++ County and pay them approximately $60, and then after the ceremony, I’ll fill out the paper work and you, your new husband, and two witnesses will sign it. And then you or me (it doesn’t matter which one) has about a month to turn it to make it legal. NC doesn’t have any waiting periods, so you could get the paper work Friday before the ceremony. I would just call to double check to make sure the county offices are going to be open. I don’t know about ++++++ County, but some counties only accept cash. This should help answer some of your questions: http://www.+++++++++ I’ll give you a call tomorrow afternoon, and we’ll get started hammering out the details. 
 ”Hi Sparrow, I just wanted to let tell you a little bit about what is going on on my end. About 4 weeks ago I contacted someone and asked if she would do our handfasting ceremony. She said yes and I reserved the date with her. She said that she would E-mail me some paperwork within a couple of days. After about 10 days she sent me another E-mail saying that she was really busy and would send me the information that afternoon. That was 3 weeks ago and I have not heard from her since. I called and E-mailed her a couple of times with no response. Last weekend I decided to start looking for someone else and that is when I contacted you. I contacted 10 people in total last weekend. I was a little nervous to put all of my eggs in one basket again and still not have an officiator for our ceremony. I have mailed the invitations, ordered the flowers and the food, so I was getting quite nervous about not having someone confirmed. So that brings me to now and I sorry to tell you that we have decided to go with someone else as officiator. Thank you for your responses to me, I really appreciate it.
 (A side note: I had switched things around in my schedule for this her.  I also did call her when I said that I would, and I received her voice mail.  This email arrived three days after I called.) 

*********************************************************************************”Hello Sparrow!
My fiance and I have been together for 8 years, we are looking to make it official tomorrow. There is so much more to this story but seeing as we’re short on time I have to skip it for now. It would mean so much to us if we could marry on Halloween. We’re not doing anything fancy, friends will be present, but we could come to you if it would be easier. Please let me know if you can help! 
Thank you,
 p.s. we’re in ++++++++++ nc, originally from ++++++++, we moved here at the start of the year” (Because of the Samhain holiday, I did not get this email until 3 days after they wanted their handfasting.) ********************************************************************************* 
I’ve talked to clergy people of other faiths, and they report that they do not generally have this problem.  The people that I talked to say that it’s not uncommon for couples to postpone a ceremony due to cold feet or to completely call off an engagement.  Some of these clergy people have a set fee, but most of them don’t, but accept love offerings, some of which gets personally pocketed and some of which gets turned in to their religious organization.  So, since many of the clergy folks of different faiths I’ve spoken to do not charge a fee, I’m inclined to think that it’s just Pagans behaving badly and being unappreciative and rude.  That’s really sad and unacceptable if we want to be taken seriously by the rest of the world.

Ruffled Feathers

Like a lot of things in my life lately, I’m a little late to the party. That’s OK. I’m here now. In support of the The Pagan Values Blogject , I’ve written a short series of what pretty much amount to rants about the current state of Paganism. I try, for the most part, to shy away from straight out rants on this blog. Rants just don’t fit into the purpose. Instead, I slip them in to my blogs in insidious and snarky ways. However, during the month of June, the Pagan Values Project, invites Pagans to share their ethics, values, and virtues with the world at large and to rant about the importance or lack of these things in the Pagan community.
So, with out further ado, here’s my list of rants about the Pagan community and the things I see as important.
  • Yes, despite the nature of my blog, I do have ethics, values, and virtues that I live by and that I expect other people to live by too.
  • Despite what many people may think, I’m very old fashioned and in some ways quite conservative.

  • I don’t necessarily have problems with folks who are fluffy bunny Pagans in general, I have a big problem with fluffy bunnies who are narrow minded. Part of why I started this blog was to broaden the horizons of those fluffy bunnies who think ideas such as mine have no place in modern Paganism.
  • Pagans need to fully embrace that sex and procreation are part of nature based religions, but that while everyone should fully embrace this, it’s not appropriate to have literal representations at all events. It’s OK to have family rituals and adult rituals, but please make sure that it’s not for some lame fluffy bunny reason like “the intensity of the power raised in circle will be too much for children” or “the deep personal journey of the guided meditation is not appropriate for the child.” Please, those are bullshit reasons not to have children at ritual. Be an adult and say you don’t like children because you think they’re disruptive.

  • It’s alright if the grittier side of Paganism is not for you–and please feel free to judge away because I’ve already judged you–but stab me in the chest instead of the back. Pagans seem to think that back stabbing, bickering, and witch wars are perfectly acceptable. It’s not acceptable. We shouldn’t be fighting more than the Baptists. If you can’t say something to someone in person because you don’t have the balls, then you shouldn’t say it online. Electronic testicles don’t count in the real world. They only count in your false reality.
  • Sacrifice is important. The aversion to all manners of sacrifice is the reason why America and Pagans often fail. Submission, Perseverance, and Endurance is the path to Deity. Think of the Chinese Kung Fu master in the Kill Bill movies. He is Deity and Bea Kiddo is on the path to enlightenment.

  • There’s a time for modesty and a time nudity. Sometimes your blouse needs a safety pin and you need to wear a sweater.
  • Be authentic or you’ll never truly be able to interact with Deity.
  • If there’s going to be a viable Pagan community that is going to be taken seriously, then people need to be active and involved. The includes charity and volunteerism. While Pagan clergy should not be paid for their services, especially if they don’t hold a divinity degree, Pagans should be the ones to fund their covens and groups. This world no longer works on the bartering system. Dig in your pocket and find a dollar. That being said, clergy and others should not live off their groups. Religious education should be free, and the only people who should be allowed to make a living from holding a Pagan event is somebody who is honest enough to bill themselves as a promoter instead of hiding being a clergy title and a group affiliation.

That’s my rant for now. Jilting clergy will be up next, and irresponsible polyamory will end the series.