“There is something so amazing about a sexual climax, where you are so engulfed by the sensations, that I think you actually transcend your own self and ego … and all that you identify with at that point, and [you] achieve a new level or consciousness that is totally pure.” –Martina
There’s tons of books and websites and workshops out there about sex magic and tantric sex. That’s not what this entry is about.
Intercourse in ritual is a natural extension of Hieros Gamos, the sacred marriage and union of the God and Goddess. There are many different ways that sex can be used in ritual to enhance the ritual and magic. And sex, as it’s being used here, means with two or more people or solitary. Masturbation works just as well as partnered sex. Here’s a short, short run down of some different ideas to get you into the Beltane spirit.
Sex to call the quarters
Consider using different positions, toys, or acts to call in the elements and quarters.
Sex to Invoke the Lord and Lady
Consider using different positions or toys to invoke the God and Goddess. If you’re having sex with a partner of the opposite sex/gender affiliation, when invoking the Goddess, the girl can be on top. When invoking the God, guy on top.
Sex to raise energy
In many different sex magic traditions, sex is used to generate the energy behind the magic, with the spell being completed upon climax.
Literal Hieros Gamos
Instead of an athame and chalice, use your body as it was meant to be used!
If your tradition calls for libations to be poured during ritual, sexual fluids are a wonderful libation liquid and are much more meaningful than cheap wine.
Sex to ground
While sex can be used to raise energy, sex can also be used to dissipate energy. As you climax, feel all that extra energy from ritual seep into the ground and leave your body.
Sex as the whole ritual
For those with stamina and creativity, sex can be the whole ritual act. Foreplay can be used to call in the elements and invoke the Lord and Lady, food can be added in for cakes and ale, and climax after climax can be added in for magical acts, libations, and grounding.
Let my worship be within the heart that rejoices, for behold, all acts of love and pleasure are my rituals.
With the Lady’s words in mind, outdoor sex should be done on private property, no underage participants should be present at rituals that involve sex or sexual acts, and all sexual acts should be consensual.